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UFC 314 Preview and he did WHAT to my baby kitten?!
Sean Brady's domination of former champion Leon Edwards at UFC Fight Night shocked the MMA world, securing a stunning submission victory that catapults him into welterweight title contention. We dissect every angle of this upset, from Brady's relentless pressure to Edwards' inability to establish any offense throughout the contest.
The upcoming UFC 314 card has us genuinely excited, featuring one of the most stacked lineups of the year. Alexander Volkanovski returns to battle Diego Lopez for the featherweight title vacated by Ilia Topuria, while showmen Michael Chandler and Paddy Pimlet square off in what promises to be an electric co-main event. The card also showcases the "Fighting Nerds" team with multiple members competing, including a UFC debut for former champion Patricio "Pitbull" against striking specialist Yair Rodriguez.
We then pivot to navigate the treacherous waters of relationship complications through three distinct stories. From manipulative engagement tactics and false accusations to jealousy manifesting as animal cruelty, and finally to a wholesome resolution built on honest communication. These contrasting tales highlight how critical open dialogue is to relationship success, while demonstrating the devastating consequences when that foundation is absent.
The most powerful takeaway emerges from our final story, where a simple miscommunication about intimacy reveals deeper feelings of disconnection. Through vulnerable conversation, the couple strengthens their bond beyond physical connection, reminding us that our partners should be our best friends and strongest allies. Life is already complicated enough—our relationships don't need to be.
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welcome everyone to episode 6 of peak points. We have a great episode for you today. We are going to talk about UFC 314, which is looking like an amazing stacked card Volkanovski versus Diego Lopez and we'll talk about UFC fight night Leon Edwards versus Sean Brady, which was a pretty steamroll of a fight. We'll talk about some other cards that are coming up right before that UFC 314 card, and then we got some complicated relationship stories for you.
Speaker 2:Relationship advice special edition. Come join us as we wade through the complications of relationships.
Speaker 1:Ugh. Anyway, as always, if you want to skip to the uh stories segment, skip ahead 30 minutes, and we should be right there. Hardly, let's get into the octagon, we'll get into that. Uh, first, we'll get into that. Fight night ufc fight night leon edwards versus sean brady. Uh, I had the pleasure of watching the whole car start to finish, so it was pretty cool.
Speaker 2:Hey, that's a change from the pay-per-view.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a change from the ESPN complications, just like the complicated relationship stories we'll get into later. First I'll talk about some of the prelims. I know that a couple of you guys had some eyes on some of these prelim fighters. That Guram gentleman, he had minus 425. He had a couple interesting people in his corner, I'll just tell you that much. He had Ilya Toporia in his corner.
Speaker 2:Oh man, that's pretty disappointing.
Speaker 1:And he ended up losing by unanimous decision. So that's pretty unfortunate. Nathan Fletetcher, next generation mma liverpool uh, same team as patty the baddies. So, and uh, he got to see two of his teammates, uh, fight on that one a couple of his teammates actually, if I'm getting that right uh, after that one. So nathan fletcher lost to loch run by split decision and I will say this card kind of well, this fight night actually really dragged on because of all the decisions on this card. It was decision central.
Speaker 2:Not knockouts.
Speaker 1:Not knockouts, but I did really enjoy this fight, which was a women's strawweight bout Shauna Bannon versus Tomar that Tomar chick from India. She hit her with a nasty head kick. Bro knocked her on her ass. It looked like a guaranteed knockout I thought like, oh it's done, she's out. She ends up coming to still and ends up submitting her damn.
Speaker 1:it was just a great comeback performance and she ended up getting performance of the night for that one great comeback and, uh, she won it for the uh tri-colored irish. She won it for the irish christian leroy duncan versus uh puliev. Uh, I know that people were looking at puliev because of that contender series that he that he was on, but he got bodied on that one and it just kind of showed a lack of experience in the cage, from what I saw, and Duncan kind of showed him what it is to be more experienced in the cage for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean to be fair, though. He didn't get knocked out or submitted.
Speaker 1:No he didn't.
Speaker 2:He didn't get completely steamrolled no, just unanimous decision.
Speaker 1:Uh, marching tibora versus mick parkin. I know that this was a heavyweight fight that people were excited about to see some knockouts, but it was a kind of a little underwhelming. Mick parkin was undefeated so I know that people were kind of going towards him for that. But yeah, march into borough shows that he's experienced and he's a really good contender at the end of the day. So I'm glad he won and we'll see where he goes in the division cavanaugh versus los santos after that. Uh, finally an english fighter won. So I mean, they were in eng, they were in the United Kingdom. I know they really needed someone to win they did get at least two, though yeah, they at least got two of them for the night.
Speaker 1:Cavanaugh won by unanimous decision. I really liked that fight. I know DeSantos was a dog in that one, but Cavanaugh really showed why he was the favorite. Jai Herbert versus Chris Padilla Another split decision, dude, it was just decision night. Yeah. And then we get to that main card and Nathaniel Wood was the second English fighter to win, so I know that the crowd was pretty happy about that one.
Speaker 2:At least they got a little bit of that.
Speaker 1:At least they got a little bit of that. At least they got a little bit of that. Chris Duncan won by submission on Jordan Vucinic. That was a really great submission. I really enjoyed that one. He was the underdog in that one, so I really appreciate that one. Heck yeah. And then we have another Patty the Batty teammate, molly McCann. Molly the Meatball McCann. I know that it was a change of opponent last minute, but that, alexia Thayannara, she really showed out, dude, that was an amazing submission.
Speaker 2:Rear naked joke yeah.
Speaker 1:Against Molly McCann who was really trying hard on this one, but she gave up her back back and it was over from there. Quick little tidbit about that. She took her gloves off and, oh, unofficially retired, I would say she. Uh, she said she's done yeah and uh, from what I recall, they kind of did like a little close-up to Patty Pimlet and he was very, very sad, visibly sad, you could see it for his teammate who she's had a hard time in the UFC and she really looked like in this fight camp that she really wanted that win.
Speaker 1:So, unfortunately, molly the Meatball is out of the UFC, retired. She put her gloves in the middle of the octagon, so we'll see what happens later on. But alexia, what a great performance and we'll see where she goes now. After that we have another performance of the night and, uh, this one very much surprised me, mainly because it's a couple things that we've talked about in the prior episode pertaining to Kevin Holland, and Kevin Holland gets the win on Gunnar Nelson, which I was fairly surprised by, even though Kevin Holland really needed this win.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, he definitely did.
Speaker 1:He really needed this win. There was a couple of knock—he didn't give a nasty knockdown a nasty one-two on Gunnar Nelson. Put him on his butt. He was a dog in this one.
Speaker 1:He was on his back a couple times, but he was getting some nasty strikes from the ground and he has one of the very few knockouts from the ground in the UFC, which was an amazing knockout, and Gunnar Nelson was the favorite in this one because of his grappling and his submission prowess. He couldn't he couldn't really get anything going as far as any attempts of of any submissions. In fact, kevin holland was very dogged in this fight because he was on his back and he was still the one trying to initiate the submission attempts, so it was all around a really great performance by kevin holland and good to see good to see and, like I stated earlier, we spoke about a couple things of kenneth holland in a previous episode and I was very candid in my opinion that he should go down to 170.
Speaker 1:And that's where this fight took place and this is where he looked really great at Right. He looked really great at 170. And I really, really hope that he stays in the 170 division. I know he likes to go up and down, up and down, but I think he really should find a home and stick with it and I think that 170 is that home. It's where he looks the most natural, it's where he seems to be having the most success at. And there's actually a funny if you look up this fight.
Speaker 1:There's a funny instant where he like wraps up Gunnar Nelson's arm and he's literally like holding on to the one arm and Gunnar Nelson's just looking at him, him like standing up with him on his arm he looked like a giant purse, giant purse on his arm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and guess what? In kevin holland fashion, he's thought he's talking to gunner nelson. Oh yeah, gunner nelson's looking at him smiling. It was. It was a very funny part of the fight. And then we have a fight that may very well shape the division itself that light heavyweight bout, oh yeah uh, former champ jan blachowicz versus carlos ulberg, which is an amazing up-and-comer right now and he's on a nasty tear. Dude ulberg is is getting his name thrown around for championship contention and he ended up beating Jan Blachowicz by a unanimous decision. I think that was an amazing fight. I really enjoyed that one but another decision. So that's the problem with this fight card. It was a lot of decisions. I would say yeah.
Speaker 2:it's hard to make good predictions when so many of them are based off decisions.
Speaker 1:And then we had that main fight, leon Edwards versus Sean Brady, and I know that Pretty spectacular fight. A lot of people in the MMA community were very surprised by this performance. Mm-hmm, a couple factors to that Leon Edwards, former champ, only losing really to Bilal Muhammad. And I really like Leon Edwards in the welterweight division. He is one of my favorite fighters. But Sean Brady did not come to play in this fight and he played to his strengths and you could see it.
Speaker 1:There wasn't a single round, a singular round in that whole fight where Leon Edwards looked like he could do anything against Sean Brady. Sean Brady was a complete dog in this one and becoming one of the first to finish Leon Edwards with an amazing one-armed guillotine choke. Look at that video with that one-armed guillotine choke. Very impressive dude.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was pretty darn solid.
Speaker 1:And he ends up winning by submission. And now they're really throwing Sean Brady's name out there for that belt. I know that it's Shofcott next after Balal versus Maddalena, but maybe if he fights again or he doesn't fight again before that, he really cemented a great performance against an amazing former champion and I think Sean Brady is going to get some flowers after this for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm definitely excited to see where he goes from here within the welterweight division.
Speaker 1:I will say Bilal Muhammad is one of the only ones to beat Shawn Brady and he beat him pretty decisively a long while back. It was an old fight and that's something that they really share together Leon Edwards and Shawn Brady. And it's funny some of the banter that Bilal Muhammad has been doing online on social media with this fight.
Speaker 1:he was saying like hey, man, Sean Brady took my homework, he did my homework, you know, because he obviously did the same game plan and it was just. And Sean Brady came back and he was like, yeah, we took him out. And it was just. And Sean Brady came back and he was like, yeah, we took him out. It was an interesting turn of events and a lot of people in the UFC community are very surprised by a great performance by Sean Brady, a very dominant performance where Leon Edwards couldn't get anything going.
Speaker 1:And you know, unfortunately for Rocky. Let's see where he goes. But yeah, it was just so dominant that a lot of the crowd was leaving already. Dang, yeah, they were gone, even Tom.
Speaker 1:Espinel was there and he was like Damn, a lot of people are leaving, maybe I should leave too. And he said something very poignant. He said this is classic Sean Brady. This is his style, that wrestling, that gas tank, that tenacity and that strength. And I think Leon Edwards very much so in this case, very much so. I think he underestimated Sean Brady, I think he wasn't ready for this and I think yeah, he just wasn't prepared to fight that combination.
Speaker 1:Yes, and I think and this is not a knock on Lee and Edwards, but I think that since Bilal Muhammad beat Sean Brady, he thought why can't I?
Speaker 3:If Bilal Muhammad can do it, why can't I if balal muhammad?
Speaker 1:can do it, why can't I? Yeah, and he just no. It just not even a single, not even a single second did I think that sean brady, uh, that leon edwards was gonna do something to sean brady in that fight. It was just the dominant, amazing performance by, uh, sean brady right, which is like man, uh, they're calling them the philly gorilla and he really mauled leon edwards like if he was a gorilla man, because it was crazy and then we got that fight night on march 29th moreno versus ursic which is going to be a great fight.
Speaker 1:this card takes place in New Mexico City, mexico. Brandon Moreno, former champion, trying to get that belt back versus former championship contender Steve Ersic, and he put up a great fight against Pantoja, current championship Pantoja. That was a great fight. Unfortunately, he did get bodied. Recently, though, he got knocked out by Kaikara, france.
Speaker 1:that was a pretty nasty knockout, brandon Moreno trying to get that belt back. After that we got Drew Dober versus Manuel Torres on that card. Drew Dober, he has a nasty knockout on Bobby King Green who recently got knocked out, so maybe he's going to be looking to do the same thing. And that's a very close fight. On the odds Minus 115, minus 105. Basically a pick-em. And then we got former championship contender Kelvin Gastelum versus Joe Pfeiffer, and the odds here are kind of crazy on that one.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Plus 410 for Gastelum, minus 550 for Pfeiffer.
Speaker 2:Wow, that is a significant change from the ESPN.
Speaker 1:They're all different. I'm sure it's wild how varied those are. How varied the odds are, but not very to the point where you know who the underdog is, you know. You definitely know that Pfeiffer's the favorite for this one. Yeah. Which is crazy to see someone at the caliber of Gaslam and I know that he's been gone for so long and coming back and losing. He recently got inducted to the Hall of Fame USC Hall of Fame for one of the greatest fights of all time him versus Adesanya.
Speaker 1:And if you guys want to see an amazing, actual war where two fighters in the UFC are willing to lay down their lives for it, look nowhere else beside Gastelum versus Adesanya, a classic fight that just got inducted to the UFC Hall of Fame. So congratulations to Kelvin Gasolam for that.
Speaker 2:Amazing amount of grit there.
Speaker 1:Amazing, yeah, absolutely. And then we got Raul Rosas Jr, aka Chee-wee-wees Versus Vince Morales, wee-wees Versus Vince Morales. And on UFC at least Ron Rosas is the favorite minus 310 on this one, yeah he's 390 on ESPN. Yeah, he's a pretty substantial favorite for this one and I know he's a crowd favorite. And then we got David Martinez, who is the favorite right Minus what Minus 400.
Speaker 1:Minus 400 for David Martinez, who is the favorite right. Minus what? Minus 400. Minus 400 for David Martinez versus Simon Oliveira. So we'll see how that fight goes. Just a couple fights on that fight card, but that main one is going to be a very exciting one Moreno versus Ersig. I am very much looking forward to that one, and that's going to be March 29th.
Speaker 2:I do want to mention there is one more fight on the main card. Ronaldo Rodriguez versus Kevin. Borjas. What are the odds on that one? As far as ESPN is concerned, it's a negative 55 for Rodriguez and a plus 130 for Borjas.
Speaker 1:Ufc has that minus 148 for Rodriguez, plus 124 versus Borjas. Um, I'm just going to give my quick picks on that one. I think Rodriguez takes it. I think he's a very dogged fighter and dogged up-and-comer and, uh, he's very young in his career, so we'll see you know where that goes as far as the UFC.
Speaker 2:He can't be that young. He's got 19 fights under his belt.
Speaker 1:Young in his career in the UFC, I would say, oh, okay, a quick fight card before we move on to UFC 314 is UFC Fight Night Josh Emmett versus Lerone Murphy, and for that card, pretty much that main fight is the one to watch. Josh Emmett is a pretty nasty featherweight. Yeah.
Speaker 1:And Murphy's a dog, I mean he had a great performance against Dan Ige and that was a great fight previously. So we'll see how that one ends up and that's going to be April 5th and that's going to be at the Apex so limited crowd in the UFC Apex. So for a Josh Emmett fight, that's going to be a great one because you're going to hear those nasty hits and, uh, I think he is one of the hardest hitting featherweights in that division, for sure um, I do want to mention that there is a, an amusing name that I'm.
Speaker 2:I'm interested to see how that fight will go the cortavious rom romius. Cortavious Rom Romeus.
Speaker 1:Cortavious.
Speaker 2:Romeus Out of USA, that that's a interesting name from the United States.
Speaker 1:So we'll see how that one goes. That's going to be April 5th and then we'll move on to that fight that I am very excited about, oh man, that UFC 314.
Speaker 2:The Down Under versus uh, what is that song?
Speaker 1:And tonight, is going to be the night that I will fall for you over again? Yeah, absolutely, and we'll see one of my favorite fighters of all time, bo Konoski. So we did see him him unfortunately, lose a couple times. We saw him lose against Islam and then, right after that, we saw him lose against Toporia, and the original fight was supposed to be him versus Toporia. And obviously Toporia has vacated the title, the featherweight title, and has moved up to 155.
Speaker 2:Which, honestly, I think was the right idea for him.
Speaker 1:Which I think is the right idea, given what he is saying that he can't make the weight.
Speaker 2:Well, there's that. But also he's been completely and utterly dominant at the featherweight division yeah. In the featherweight division.
Speaker 1:I mean, if you've completely dominated all comers by then, it's definitely time to start looking to go up realistically, I mean back-to-back wins on two legends of the division Volkanovski, knocking him out and then knocking out Max Holloway.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for the first time ever.
Speaker 1:The first person to ever do it. So he's definitely leaving his mark on that division and we'll see. We'll see what happens and we'll see who his first opponent yet to be announced is in that division. I think it might be Charles Oliveira, and that should be an amazing matchup if that's the case, absolutely. I don't think it's going to be Islam as of yet, and some of the rumors are that Islam may have denied that fight versus Toporia.
Speaker 2:I would too. I would too. He needs to prove himself within weight class.
Speaker 1:I think he needs to prove himself against a contender in that weight class and then after that we have I'm excited about this fight.
Speaker 2:Oh, yes, absolutely.
Speaker 1:Chandler versus another great showman, patty pimlet. And uh, something that very much interests me in this ufc site is that patty pimlet is the favorite minus 42 plus 120 for michael chandler, and that's going to be a showing, that's going to be a complete show, and because Michael Chandler doesn't give us boring fights no, that's one thing he has yet to do.
Speaker 2:I mean he's he is. Honestly, I've only ever seen him fight once. But that fight against Oliveira was really good and really the only reason why he didn't win was because of the control time that olivera had. I mean, he cleared.
Speaker 1:Olivera was not dominating him at all and a highlight of that fight controlling his controlling point but he wasn't dominating at all in that fight sure and uh. That was an amazing fight. I remember that one very clearly, and one thing that very much stands up out to me from that fight was when he he had him on his back and he stood up twice from the ground.
Speaker 2:Oliver was just wrapped around him and he's just walking around just uh, playing to the crowd.
Speaker 1:That was great that was amazing and, uh, the leads to the great gladiator, gladiator spirit that michael chandler has. Yeah, I mean, what a gladiator moment. Yeah, in that fight it felt like the showmanship was great. The showmanship was out of this world. Amazing fight, michael Chandler. So we'll see him versus Patty Pimlet. We'll see him against Patty the Batty and see how he does, and see if it's a shift in the tides, a shift in generation.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm tides, a shift in generation, you know just out of curiosity, what, uh, what are the odds that ufc has for them?
Speaker 1:uh, minus 142 paddy pimlett.
Speaker 2:Plus 120 michael chandler that's pretty close to the espn. Espn is uh one net minus 135 for paddy and plus 115 for chandler.
Speaker 1:And then after that, oh my god, another fight that I'm very excited to see. We're going to see Bryce Flat Earther Mitchell versus John Silva. We recently saw a John Silva fight where he got a TKO victory. Part of that Fighting Nerds crew.
Speaker 2:I see that yeah.
Speaker 1:So it should be, uh, absolutely amazing. John silva called bryce mitchell out. Quick turnaround for john silva right after his uh tko victory to be fighting so soon. But bryce mitchell man, a very interesting character and uh he's an odd one he's an odd one, and if you want to see something odd, just look up that press conference. Both of them were in.
Speaker 2:Well, I've actually never watched the whole one, but any highlight reel of his is full of oddness, full of oddness. Nice about it.
Speaker 1:Full of oddness, but regardless. That's going to be a great fight, but regardless that's going to be a great fight and, honestly, I'm on the lookout for John Silva because every fight that he's had so far in the UFC has been incredible. These fighting nerds, that team in general.
Speaker 2:They have some good style. It's just amazing.
Speaker 1:I mean, we recently saw him hit another one of his teammates, mauricio Rufi, yeah, with one of the nastiest, mauricio. Rufi yeah, with one of the nastiest wheel kicks that I've seen in the UFC.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he sent him to sleep. Oh, my God.
Speaker 1:And then we have another fighting nerd fighting right after Carlos Prates versus Jeff Neal, a veteran of the UFC. Busy night for the fighting nerds. Busy night for the fighting nerds, and hopefully we'll be seeing some more of those glasses on Joe Rogan at the end of the UFC. Busy night for the fighting nerds. Busy night for the fighting nerds, and hopefully we'll be seeing some more of those glasses on Joe Rogan at the end of the night that they love to put on him.
Speaker 1:Carlos Prates is another one of those fighting nerds that you have to look out for, oh man his highlight reel is disgustingly great and, uh, it's funny because a lot of people do like him, because he's so open about the smoking and the drinking, just which is an odd, an odd reason to be a fan of someone. But I guess they just like that he's himself.
Speaker 2:I don't well, I mean, people were the same way about nate diaz right sure yeah absolutely not, obviously, but a fair number of people identified with him because of that.
Speaker 1:Everybody loves a bad boy, I guess, right.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know about everybody.
Speaker 1:Plenty of people do, plenty of people do, so that's the one to look out for. Also, this card is absolutely stacked. After that Carlos Prates fight, we have another featherweight fight with another former contender, with Yair Rodriguez. Some of the nastiest kicks you're going to see in the UFC come from this guy against Patricio Pitbull, which is making his UFC debut, a champion from another fight, division 36-7-0.
Speaker 2:Another fight, yeah, another fight. Promotion. That's a pretty decent run.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, he's amazing too, and I think he should have came to the UFC a long time ago. It's just one of those cases where well waste of age, but he's an amazing champion from another fight promotion and he's going to be making his debut against a very exciting fighter in the UFC, and this is another banger to look out for. It's a guaranteed one. Do they have some odds on the ESPN for that one?
Speaker 2:for the pitbull fight. Yeah, yeah, that's. Uh.
Speaker 1:No, they don't they don't on the UFC either.
Speaker 2:I could have sworn they just had it, but now that I'm opening it up, yeah, it's no odds.
Speaker 1:So that's another amazing fight to look out for Yair Rodriguez versus Patricio Pitbull. I think that's going to be a classic.
Speaker 2:Damn. Dan Ige is in the prelims.
Speaker 1:I know and I love Dan Ige uh, but we got uh the prelims coming up after that. We got uh before. That's uh Nikita Krylov versus former championship contender Dominic Reyes. I absolutely loves Dominic Reyes and his road to the championship was inspirational. He was on a tear before way back. Things happen, losses add up. It all started with him losing to a very controversial decision to Jon Jones, which a lot of people do feel that Dominic Reyes won that fight against Jon Jones, one of the very few people to have really left a mark on Jon Jones, and I even think that Jon Jones himself has stated that Dominic Reyes was one of his most difficult fights.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I've seen a clip of him talking about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then loses to Jon Jones, loses to Jan Blachowicz by knockout, and then gets put on a highlight reel by Giri with a spinning elbow one of the nastiest spinning elbow knockouts. So it's been a tough road for Dominic Reyes. To get back up into the contention To get back into the contention and I think he's going to take it against Krylov. And then we have Dan Ige, one of my favorites slept on featherweights. Oh man, I love Dan Ige. You might remember Dan Ige took a fight on four hour notice.
Speaker 2:Wasn't it like two and a half it was?
Speaker 1:like a couple-hour notice. He stated that he was literally getting a massage when he had to fight a Diego Lopez, which is crazy to fight that level of fighter?
Speaker 2:on that short a notice, that short a notice, it's wild. On that short of notice, that short of notice, it's wild.
Speaker 1:Dan Ige, a complete animal, a complete dog and, honestly, a fighter to look out for in the featherweight division.
Speaker 2:And I mean he did a really good showing that night oh yeah, oh yeah, it was very close.
Speaker 1:That one was very close. We got him versus Sean Woodson, which should be another great fight. It should really be another great fight, for sure.
Speaker 2:Man. Their height difference is pretty crazy 5'7 to 6'2.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a pretty substantial difference in height. And then we got the women's strawweight bout. It's going to be Yan Xiaonan, which I like, yan Xiaonan, she had an amazing fight against Weiili Zhang before for that belt. Weili Zhang put her in a body bag.
Speaker 2:As she does as she does.
Speaker 1:I love Weili man. Anyway, she's fighting Verna Jandiroba, so that should be an amazing fight and that's a contender fight, I think.
Speaker 2:I think we'll see some fireworks.
Speaker 1:We'll see some fireworks in there. I love Yan Xiaonan and I think, given her last performance, which she fought in China, I think she might win in this one as well. I think she's going to put up a great performance to try to fight Zhang Weili again If Zhang Weili does not go up in weight. We have yet to see what's to happen with that Right, right. And then we got that super senior Jim Miller, the absolute consummate veteran. Jim Miller.
Speaker 2:At 41.
Speaker 1:Fighting Chase Hooper, the young gun. So another change of the tides and Jim Miller's looking to add to his win column and one win closer to 40 wins in the UFC. Which would be pretty crazy. Which would be pretty crazy, jim Miller, one of the oldest running fighters, active fighters in the UFC, and we should see how that one goes. But this card is absolutely stacked man, absolutely stacked, and every fight on this card is one to look out for, especially that main fight, volkanovski versus Lopez.
Speaker 2:I'm betting we're not going to see just a full card of decisions that night.
Speaker 1:I don't think so.
Speaker 2:We're going to be seeing some serious knockouts.
Speaker 1:I think everybody on this card is looking for finishes I mean just absolute dogs in this fight card, and this is one of my favorite fight cards of the year so far. It's just this one, and I very much look forward to seeing this entire card man, From start to finish. It seems like every fight is an important fight and a lot of these fights in this card are going to shape a division.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I'm very excited. I mean just the main fight alone. It's literally for a fight that Ilya Toporia just left the belt for. Literally for a fight that Ilya Toporia just left the belt for. And it's funny that Ilya commented like I'm just leaving a toy for my kids to play with while I'm gone, did he? Wow, man, it's just a crazy time in the UFC Boy.
Speaker 2:It's going to be so sad for Ilya if his first fight going up he gets taken down.
Speaker 3:Right that's going to be real sad for Ilya if his first fight going up he gets taken down Right.
Speaker 1:That's going to be real sad for him. It's the ultimate gamble, as they say. He bet on himself.
Speaker 1:I mean, if it is, ilya Toporia does end up facing Charles Oliveira at the end, which Charles Dubronk Oliveira is one of the most dangerous fighters in that division. If he fights him, it's an ultimate gamble. Charles could choke him out, charles could put him out, but Ilya Topor is betting on himself. So we'll definitely wait to see what announcement there is. I know that Uncle Dana doesn't disappoint. There is, uh, I know that uncle dana doesn't disappoint. So, uh, we look, I look forward to seeing how these every division pretty much is shaping up very interestingly and, uh, I look forward to the future of the ufc. For sure, absolutely, and I think we'll go ahead and end the ufc talk there. Harley, yeah, I know we got some really deep shit to get into. I know we got some complicated relationship stories to get into.
Speaker 2:There's some serious complications ahead.
Speaker 1:Oh man, Hopefully not as complicated as trying to watch a fight on ESPN a pay-per-view on ESPN. All right, Harley. Our first deep dive into the complicated world of relationships is going to be from subreddit RelationshipAdvice.
Speaker 2:Sounds good.
Speaker 1:This first post is by OK-Cauliflower7000.
Speaker 2:Well, good thing it's not 6,000, then it wouldn't be okay.
Speaker 1:And they like cauliflower. The title is I, 32 male, recently got engaged to my fiancée, 28, female. She started being belligerent, argumentative and violent. Not sure if this is an early sign of abuse question mark. I'm considering to break up and cancel engagement story starts. I have been with my girlfriend now fiance for two and a half years now. We got engaged two weeks ago and the relationship went from went from good to great. As we were celebrating the joy of our engagement Over the weekend, we got into a small petty argument while working out at the gym.
Speaker 1:I did not want to cause a scene, so I tried to diffuse the situation by asking for space and finish our work out separately. She really did not like that and she threw her earbuds at the back of my head and stormed out at the gym. At this point I was really embarrassed. I did not follow her outside and quickly wrapped up my workout. Instead of waiting by the car or returning to finish the workout, she decided to walk all the way home, a whole four miles away. When we both returned home, she was extremely sorry and kept asking me to hug her and make up. I was still very upset and embarrassed about the whole situation and I couldn't bring myself to hug her back, as it felt wrong and honestly unnatural. I told her I needed more space because I needed to work on a project with an upcoming deadline. I promised that we would talk afterwards.
Speaker 1:However, she was persistent in resolving the problem and kept blocking the door to my office and smothering me with hugs. I gently moved her arms around me and maneuvered her to the side so I can slip into my office and into my chair. I was extremely shocked when she said Please do not push me. Please don't push me, don't hurt me, insinuating that I was physically hurting her. I sat down and I told her that I am shocked that she even thinks that I would harm her and that I would never do such a thing. I further expressed my need for space and asked her please let me finish my work. This triggered her and she tried smothering me with hugs again. I could not bring myself to reciprocate a hug in that moment, so I crossed my arms and put my legs up to prevent her from getting close, mothering me with hugs again. I could not bring myself to reciprocate a hug in that moment, so I crossed my arms and put my legs up to prevent her from getting close. She kept trying to maneuver around my arms and legs and hug me when I would not budge. She said why are you kicking me? I am going to call the police. I was extremely shocked at this point.
Speaker 1:In the two and a half years together, this type of argument slash behavior never manifested before. I understood the severity of the situation, gave her a kiss on the forehead and explained that I would never harm her and that I just needed space right now. The kiss calmed her down. I finished my work in two hours and we came to a resolution. I finished my work in two hours and we came to a resolution. I told her how hurt I am by what she was implying and that honestly making me rethink our relationship. She understood and begged for a second chance. I reluctantly agreed, but I am constantly replaying the whole situation in my head.
Speaker 1:I keep asking myself if this only happened two weeks into our engagement, what can I expect months or years down the line? What if this toxicity persists or get worse and we have children? In one hand, I know to walk away on the first sign of toxicity or abuse. On the other hand, how strong was my commitment to mary, if I break off our engagement over one incident tldr me and my significant others. My significant other of two and a half years got engaged two weeks ago. She started being belligerent and violent. She said I physically hurt her and she would call the police when I did not. This is the first time something like this happened and I am not sure if I should continue holy moly talk about.
Speaker 2:There's a lot there's a lot to unpack there's a lot to unpack man um, do you want to dive into it first, or should I? What are your thoughts on that man? Thoughts to unpack man.
Speaker 1:Do you want to dive into it first, or should I?
Speaker 2:What are your thoughts? On it man. Too many really for one episode. In all honesty, there's a lot going on there. First off, there's several things I can think of that could be, several things I can think of that could be, shall we say, underlying issues, slash causes of this right. I mean, she genuinely could have recently had some sort of weird traumatic incident that brought out odd behaviors who knows?
Speaker 2:it could even be an odd hormonal imbalance from a recent birth control change. Or I mean even antibiotics can sometimes do that to people, just wild mood and behavioral changes. So I first have to say double check if there's been any recent medical underlying causes never thought of that. Secondly, no matter what you do, that girl needs therapy, Just point blank Needs therapy.
Speaker 2:I mean the whole trying to say he was doing things to her when he obviously wasn't is, as a man, horrifying, because 90% of the time, a woman is believed, no matter how wild the claims are, no matter how little the evidence there is right, that's not to say 90 of the times I'm not saying it doesn't happen or not because it definitely happens, right, but all a woman most of the time has to do is say that something happened and most people will believe her right and take actions as if that was the truth.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and in an instance like that, where she's claiming you're physically abusing her slash, refusing to let her leave or what have you, that is scary that's very scary from a legal standpoint and also I mean also get to the top of the of the story, which is the fact that she threw something at him at the gym in a public setting and had no shame or had no yeah, no forethought about that, which is that's kind of a scary thing physically lash out at someone, especially if that's not within character, if it's within her character, if that's not a surprising action.
Speaker 2:Her lashing out physically I mean not not that she got angry, or anything like that, just if she like, if you upset her jokingly or whatever and she slaps you. It can be playful, but depends on the intent behind it yeah, and the connotations I mean you have to pay attention to the intent behind it, but of course if this was a fluke incident, I mean, that's, I'm all.
Speaker 1:This stuff is situational, of course, and yeah, and I really, I really hope that it doesn't get worse for this gentleman and that he finds out. Maybe you know, you know, god forbid this is not a reoccurring thing in the future. Like he was saying months to years down the line, if this breakdown in her character happens again, maybe worse. And like you were saying, you know, therapy is a good tool to use to if this is not in her character. Like you were saying, if there was like a snap or something maybe something at work there.
Speaker 1:there's many things that can be possible, but some of the comments on here are pretty good and this is a first comment by HadToSignUpForThis and they said oh hell, no, I'm kind of scared for you here. To be honest, this is going to f*** up your life. Please figure out a way to extract yourself from the situation. Document everything. Get the footage from the gym. No way she doesn't accuse you of domestic violence if you can get her to admit she lied over text to that and then run absolutely that.
Speaker 2:that was. That was the other part of the stuff I hadn't gotten to yet, like I said, there's a lot to unpack, and getting distanced away from someone who is capable of that is a very touchy and scary thing. So much documented proof that she's being effectively insane in order to defend yourself defend yourself because, like I was saying, she can accuse you of almost anything and most people will automatically believe her if you don't have rock solid proof that that's not the case exactly.
Speaker 1:And uh, another comment by jen5872. That's not an early sign of abuse. It is abuse. It's also manipulation when she says she'll call the cops on you for quote unquote kicking her. That threat alone would make me end the entire relationship on the spot. She threatened you, capitulated. Now she knows she can use that threat and you'll fall in line if you break up.
Speaker 2:Make sure you have a witness in the house with you and that also reminds me of another point that I needed time back and hadn't gotten to yet, which is not only was she manipulating with the false threats that both of them obviously knew weren't true or at least I would hope both of them did but smothering him with love and not respecting him saying no. That's, if someone can't respect you saying no, right, they don't respect you point blank they do not respect you or they think you're an idiot, I guess right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, in this case they were severely trying to manipulate and and yeah, it's trying to use physicality to force or slash, manipulate someone into believing that it's okay. That's I mean, that's also manipulation, obviously, and it's a sign of someone who probably actually knows what they're doing.
Speaker 1:Hmm, someone devious.
Speaker 2:Genuinely toxic, toxic and someone you should definitely run away from Carefully, carefully, but run away from.
Speaker 1:Like this comment right here, very poignant. Resident Fragrant 9669. Oh my god, this woman has actually given you a priceless gift by displaying this behavior before you got married yes, if you continue this relationship?
Speaker 2:jail or worse in all caps run I mean like that's why I said in the beginning is sometimes a hormonal or medical issue can cause this, and if that's case, then you probably don't need to run. But if it's not, that if it's not caused by an abrupt shift within her, like from without her, I should say an external force that suddenly shifted, then yeah, if that's just how she is, potentially it's definitely a run situation.
Speaker 1:Care carefully bring a witness. Uh get some.
Speaker 2:Uh get some receipts yes, and make sure you're in a state that you can record without her knowledge, and if you are, then record every interaction you have with her, every interaction I mean, you never know, you never know my complicated relationship story is largely self-inflicted but, uh, it's from Relationship Problems and it's posted by an underwater Medusa.
Speaker 2:My girlfriend lied about her body count for months. Should I end it? Now this person's saying that they're currently 18 and 19. Mm-hmm, and they've been dating for a little over two years, I'm guessing. From the sounds of it, since we started dating, she is my first for quite literally everything. First girlfriend, first body. I knew she wasn't a virgin even before, but I was okay with that. But I made the mistake of not having the body count talk until one year of dating. Hmm, at the time I told her about my only two talking stages before her, referring to previous relationships, and she told me she had four bodies before me. Now I already thought that was a lot because she was quite young, but I loved her and kept pushing. This would eat at my mind silently for the next six months. Eventually it ate at my mental, so much I looked through her phone. I know I crossed a privacy barrier, but I ended up learning about at least two more sexual partners with video proof. Yes, I saw the videos of her other men.
Speaker 2:very traumatizing for me oh, wow so had at least six guys by the time we started dating. One of these guys she has actually told me about, but she said they only talked, not anything sexual. The other was unknown to me and was quite literally maybe two weeks before me and her started. I also found she had a secret Instagram to stalk my old talking to stages and all of her previous sexual partners.
Speaker 1:Oh sheesh.
Speaker 2:On Snapchat. She even deleted recent messages from one of them. I also found out about another guy. She only gave oral to, but she was following this guy on Instagram about a year into us dating.
Speaker 1:Wow, that sounds a little like drama there going on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I kept quiet for about two weeks until eventually confronting her. The actual confrontation went horribly shocker and she denied quite literally everything. This guy's really fond of literal quite literally everything, until the end when I had to show proof. Now this hurts because we have had arguments about this before. She would get mad at me for what I did with my talking stages, as if that's anything. I don't know what that means.
Speaker 1:You talked. You talked with the talking stages.
Speaker 2:That's, you know's, that's pretty serious stuff severe so much more serious than actually having sex with people yes, that's worse anyway and I spoke my mind about her bodies that I was aware of at the time.
Speaker 2:It hurts knowing she was getting mad at me the whole time she was telling me the biggest lie of all. It hurt how she would lie so big and so long. But after the confrontation we have continued dating and haven't really talked about it for a month and a half. Of course this is kind of making it harder. I think it's just because it's really hard to let go. I consider her my first love, if that goes to say how deep I am in this relationship. But I'd be lying if I said the whole body count thing hasn't been bothering me every single day since the confrontation.
Speaker 2:I keep it silent, but it never fails to ruin my mood and I even cry sometimes. Now, over this past month, of not bringing up our issues, we still have good moments here and there, some arguments, mostly just from being silent, about issues bothering each other Other than her lying, I have to emphasize. She has been damn near a perfect girlfriend Qualities I love and desire in a partner. She hasn't even changed her password after finding out I had been going through it her password after finding out I had been going through it.
Speaker 2:Obviously, it still bothers me every day and my worst fear is building up resentment about the situation and it building into arguments if we continue. I don't think I'm mature enough relationship-wise yet to just forget about it easily. But I'm also scared to end it because I truly believe it's something good and we can obviously still have a good time despite it, and she is willing to work on it and to prove her loyalty. Should I let go of all that and let my morals be compromised, or hold on and work on the damage and that's? That's the end?
Speaker 1:dang. I mean he's saying that he doesn't want to hold resentment, but it seems he's pretty damn resentful still.
Speaker 2:I mean, at least he's aware enough to know that he's not mature enough to let it go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's a key word, maybe not mature enough in general for this whole relationship thing, enough in general for this whole relationship thing if body counts and stuff like that still are a really big you know point for him.
Speaker 1:And um, who knows, maybe she did not mention these other gentlemen well, clearly she didn't, unless this is an absolute fabrication right but I guess if you are mature you kind of realize that moving forward and their character now with me is a real important thing. You know not things they did with other people before. And as long as they're making it clear that they're exclusive with each other and there isn't either one of them being unfaithful, then there really shouldn't be much that he should be worried about. I would say.
Speaker 2:So I have to say, my input on this is, first of all, if previous bodies, if you will, are an issue for you, then you need to get out of this relationship. Well, first of all, you need to get out of this relationship.
Speaker 2:Well, first of all, you need to either get over it and get past it, or get out of this relationship and find someone who has the same values as you right because if someone's past sexual history is that important to you which in my view of things is nonsensical but if it is that important to you, then you need to find someone who also views it that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, and communicate it up front. You know right from the beginning, Like, like, hey, I'm looking for someone who hasn't had as much experience so that we can experience things together.
Speaker 2:I I mean. I don't know, but he did have two talking stages.
Speaker 1:And that's just as bad Talking stages are bad. That's not. That's not the whole thing. According to the girl. Oh, okay, yeah. According to the girl, she was kind of tripping on the talking stages, which was kind of interesting to me, a little strange, a little, dare I say, high school yeah.
Speaker 2:I think both of them are on opposite sides of the spectrum. It would seem that her view of sex and relationships is sex can be casual Relationships are for real. Yeah. And he is. Sex is the relationship and is what makes the relationship real, is what it seems like because talking stages are. That's literally.
Speaker 1:You're just talking I guess you're not planning.
Speaker 2:You're not physically interacting any of that. You're just talking where so it would seem, especially given her hiding the number of quote-unquote bodies she's had, which just frankly, seems it makes my skin kind of crawl to refer to it that way yeah, it kind of sucks um, anyway, she was, seems, rather blasé about her past sexual exploits right but she's somehow feeling intense and potentially threatened by talking stages. So it would seem she was using viewing the sex as casual and talking stages as real in-depth feeling.
Speaker 1:I mean clearly, because from what I recall in the story it stated that she's following his two talking stages on Instagram.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think it mentioned a specific number of talking stages, but yeah, she's definitely supposed to be talking about or following them.
Speaker 1:That's a little strange too, so I don't think either one of them is in the right in this?
Speaker 1:no, and she should not have been lying and she should not have been lying and, uh, him as well, should have made it in the forefront, you know, before starting the relationship, about his values and whether or not she follows those values. You know, like you were stating earlier, which is very poignant, I mean find somebody in you know, like you were stating earlier, which is very poignant, I mean find somebody in you know that kind of matches you a little bit more. You know if that's such a major concern to this person.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and I mean it kind of. To me it sounds like they should not be in a relationship together. Point blank. Both of them have very differing views in that, which isn't to say that neither one or both of them shouldn't grow Of course. As the people they are, in order to at least understand the other better and clearly. Communication is far from excellent. Right In this relationship.
Speaker 1:And also, they're both clearly rather young and haven't had much life experience yet In order to have a better perspective, but I mean good lord but I mean, good lord, I think takeaway, takeaway for all of this in this story, this complicated story, is communication is key. Communicate what you want, what you desire and, and, honestly, maybe that's a way better route than finding out oh, you have six bodies. You didn't tell me.
Speaker 2:You know, I mean yes, Communication is key.
Speaker 1:Communication is key.
Speaker 2:But some people don't really know what communication even really is in a situation like this. Right know what communication even really is. In a situation like this, right, you also have to understand what you want in order to properly communicate what you want, and from the way this story was written, it kind of seems like he doesn't even really know his own desires in this not a good community?
Speaker 2:I think he needs to sit down and really think about these, this stuff both of them really probably probably, and so, harley, I have another very, very complicated story about relationships oh boy and I actually found this story rather disturbing oh it's under the subreddit.
Speaker 1:Uh ask reddit. What are your crazy ex-girlfriend boyfriend stories?
Speaker 2:oh no, this can get really insane and this is by gr.
Speaker 1:Underscore loves underscore the cupcake okay it begins. My crazy ex-boyfriend told me one day while we were still dating that I loved my 10 week old kitten more than him. He asked me that night if he could take him home with him to keep him awake during the drive. I said no, but he took him anyway the next morning. What the hell. Kidnapping, catnapping. The next morning he called to tell me that he woke up late, jumped out of bed and, quote, accidentally crushed him with both feet.
Speaker 2:Nope.
Speaker 1:In his exact words Nope, End the story there. You think we should just end the story?
Speaker 2:Honestly, he just jumps right into animal cruelty and that's all you really need to know about.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry guys.
Speaker 2:If they're willing to hurt and kill An innocent baby creature. That's enough you need to know they're bug nuts. Talk about complicated Behind the woodshed in a Talk about complicated they should be taken out behind the woodshed and shot.
Speaker 1:Talk about complicated. Okay, he was all kinds of crazy Understatement and this may even be the least terrible thing he did in our short time together.
Speaker 2:What the fuck Least terrible.
Speaker 1:To end the story. I really hate that guy. Wait, that was the f*** Least terrible To end the story.
Speaker 2:I really hate that guy.
Speaker 1:Wait, that was the whole story, so I'm assuming that comments drew this person back because there's two other edits to this story. Oh, okay.
Speaker 1:Edit. First one For those of you who are asking, here is a response I made to someone with more of my story. Okay, see, I have some concerns that he may also be a Redditor, but I've already put the story out there. So if he sees this, I guess he sees this. I won't go into too much detail at all because it's still really hard for me, but let's just say he was also a sexual predator and I don't believe I was the only victim during the time of our relationship and the short time after.
Speaker 2:What the f God? Relationships like this piss me off.
Speaker 1:And this is even worse. I believe the other victim was a child.
Speaker 2:N-ah.
Speaker 1:I had no solid proof but I did finally get the courage to report him. Unfortunately, it was too long after it occurred and nothing was done in my case and he was not charged in the other. I was able to break off contact shortly thereafter, so I'm not really sure what happened, but he had confronted my brother about it and tried to contact my mother, who managed to scare him away from me. The detective I was working with stopped contacting me and the whole thing just kind of dropped. I never got any real closure on the situation and the whole thing still haunts me.
Speaker 1:And for those of you who have taken to criticize me for not seeing all the red flags, all I can say to you is this you are welcome to go back and take a walk in my young, 18 year old shoes and see how you deal with a charming social psychopath who has everyone you know on his side. It was a very bad time in my life. I only hope that you never encounter someone like that and and if you do, maybe you can do it better than I did I will say I have learned a lot from my experience and I will never ignore my gut instinct ever again. I hope this story will help others learn that too. It's incredibly important, even if you feel silly or mean, to listen to your gut and what it tells you and don't look back.
Speaker 2:That is a very solid response from someone who clearly has learned their lesson. Yes To be clear my previous anger was at the guy, not at the naivete of the poster, Because yeah a lot of people are pressured with various methods into overlooking or straight up ignoring various red flags. And yeah, when you're young and dumb, yes, and you're dealing with like a legitimate predator? Yeah, it's. It can easily be really terrible, and fortunately she got out of this. Really terrible and fortunately she got out of this.
Speaker 2:Unfortunately, the cat didn't no, that's horrible dude and whatever, whoever, or potentially well, not potentially the potential other victim. I hope they can grow and learn from it as well, if well, if there's any real lessons to be learned, I suppose, depending on their situation. But uh, yeah, I mean, people that can do that are monsters right and uh, they're demons among us and that's the scary part.
Speaker 1:Uh, I like like that. This OP is kind of getting back to the comments and we'll read some of the comments. But another edit they did. They have this one and then a final one. I'm assuming you get gold for being a Redditor or posting a really great story or something you can be given awards okay, so in this case this OP was given an award, I guess.
Speaker 1:Edit two Thank you for all these supportive comments. They really mean a lot to me, and thanks to whoever gave me the gold. I wish it could have been for something more positive, but either way it brightened my day. And then final edit, before we get to the comments, for those concerned about my well-being, thank you.
Speaker 1:This all happened a very long time ago and I have since married a wonderful man and I have a lovely family of healthy, happy, safe pets thank god, thanks for listening to my story and I hope that maybe it will help at least one person out there and take away from this is, if you see red flags like this, I mean, ain't any red flags? If you have a gut feeling, sometimes it is a good thing to trust your gut and try to see about getting some insight as to this person's behavior.
Speaker 1:I mean, that was a horrifying story and you know it's not something you can Get over easily, I think, in her situation and I'm glad that she was able to Move forward with her life and end up happy with her husband husband and happy with her little pets, which is very important.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. I mean honestly. It kind of feels like there should be, I don't know, taught in school, a certain number of red flags that should just be automatic deal breakers, you know, Like animal cruelty yeah it's. It's a pretty, pretty solid one severe being a sexual predator is probably another one not probably. Yes, it is, that's horrible yeah, I know, I'm just saying like in the theoretical classroom. It would be another hard, hard pass type red flag you know.
Speaker 2:I mean I understand there's all kinds of red flags for all kinds of situations, but being a little manipulative is significantly different from murdering a small critter because you're jealous of the love that they're receiving. Like yeah what the?
Speaker 1:kind of goes with these comments here. Uh, first one by psycho dave, and then op actually responds dot dot dot. Did you just say your ex-boyfriend stomped a 10 week old kitten to death? Threads over this is the best story here. Threads over this is the best story here. And op comments yeah, apparently out of jealousy, or probably just because he got off on hurting things that were smaller and weaker than he was.
Speaker 1:He was a sick and then psycho dave replies good lord, that's, that's effing terror, terrifying. And then another person comments which is hilarious was he Joffrey Lannister? This has got to be the actual craziest thing on here, holy shit.
Speaker 2:I hope you call the cops on him for that sounds like cops were involved, but they clearly didn't get the job done no, I mean in situations like that unfortunately, it can be really difficult for the police, no matter how much they want to Right.
Speaker 1:And it's that whole rigmarole thing that you have to go through, which is very unfortunate. And another commenter very poignantly says this is how serial killers are made.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:And so, just like I said, man, just if you're ever in a situation like that, uh, get out while you can, because again safely, as safely as you can, with as much documentation as you can I mean there's some horror stories out there and you know, I really just hope that survivors of abuse seek that help, that therapy, and don't be afraid to talk to someone, don't be afraid to call someone. And you know that's the hard part is the afterward, the PTSD, the trauma that all brings. So you know, long story, short take away is if you need help, get that help, the trauma that that all brings. So you know, long story short takeaway is if you need help, get that help.
Speaker 2:Don't be scared of it.
Speaker 1:Don't be scared of getting help.
Speaker 2:All right Now to wrap this up. Let's have a. While initially complicated, it ends wholesomely. Let's wrap this up with some wholesomeness, all right. So the first post is on relationship underscore advice by Throra265381827. Holy cannoli, that's a lot of numbers and it's uh.
Speaker 2:My 25 female husband, 27 male, suddenly wants too much sex question mark. So my husband and I met in college when I was 18 and he was 20. We got engaged after about a year and a half I know early LMAO and since I was waiting for marriage, we had sex for the first time then and we were both virgins. Despite all of the bad stories people told me about waiting, it was actually great. After some practice we officially got married after graduation. So we've been together for about eight years, married for four, and our sex life has always been good, pretty much every night. But for the past two weeks he suddenly wants it all the time, like three plus times a day. Sheesh. And don't get me wrong, I love sex with him and I have a good sex drive too, but I do not have that kind of stamina or time. Last night he got upset when I said I wanted to sleep and mind you guys, we had already had sex two times earlier. When I jokingly asked what's up with the libido increase, he just made some joke back and said it's the usual. This is really out of character for him and that's why I'm surprised he has never been an extremely sexual person, like most men, I know. Do you guys know why this might be happening? And just as a pertinent thing, pertinent comment by MeasurementLast937.
Speaker 2:People's libido can fluctuate a lot throughout life. I wouldn't worry too much about that. But what's important here is that people's libido also frequently does not line up. This is normal and happens to any relationship long term. It takes respect and good communication from both sides to learn to navigate that.
Speaker 2:Him being upset over you wanting to sleep after you already did the deed twice that day feels manipulative and super demanding, not healthy anyways. You would expect that your no would turn him off, because who would want to have intimacy with someone who's not in the mood? I think it would be a good idea to discuss this at a different and neutral, calm moment, approach it from a curiosity, non-judgmental point of view, but also keep in mind that you are fully valid in protecting your boundaries and it should be emotionally safe to say no at any time, also if you don't feel like it for days or weeks. As an aside, as a personal response to that comment, all of that is true, but I do think there should be a caveat in that it doesn't sound like he was pissed off or lashing out at her. It's perfectly reasonable and okay to be disappointed when you're in the mood and your partner's not.
Speaker 1:Especially at that frequency.
Speaker 2:You shouldn't be making them feel guilty about it, and you shouldn't be ranting at them about it, but it's perfectly reasonable Three times a day.
Speaker 1:Where do they find the time, dude? They sound like Hispanic parents back in the days when there was no TVs. And they were like they had 20 kids and it's like, why do you have so many kids? There was nothing else to do. Look, there's things to do these days, you know.
Speaker 2:look at your phone I don't know, maybe, maybe, uh, they both work from home or they both have lunches off together or something. I don't know. But that is, yeah, I don't have, I don't have that kind of time. I mean to be fair, yeah to be besides the point.
Speaker 1:I just want to know where they find the time.
Speaker 2:Anyway. So the original poster commented to that and they said yes, I agree with you, but when I say upset, I don't mean like mad, okay, here we go. He was just annoyed, slash disappointed, I guess. He didn't insist or anything, and I will talk to him. I just wanted to know the potential reasons. Thank you for your words. Yeah, so basically kind of what I was touching on.
Speaker 2:I mean it's perfectly reasonable to just be disappointed if you're raring to go and you you want to share that intimacy and it's not like insane. So they then posted the next day. So this was posted one day ago. This has been posted 10 hours ago and it is just update same title. For those who didn't read the first post, here's the link.
Speaker 2:And then some of you commented and most DM'd me saying it could be something shady, like cheating, guilt, etc. I really didn't think that was the case, but my overthinking got the best of me. So last night I went through his phone. I know, not nice of me, but I was so curious and he doesn't even have a password. I wasn't even expecting anything crazy, maybe just a ton of porn or something. I found nothing. Weird, though, While I was doing this, he woke up, looked at me all sleepily and said Is that my phone?
Speaker 2:I panicked and just said yeah. He literally just mumbled, oh, rolled over and went back to sleep In the morning. He didn't say anything about it. So I was like Uh, uh, aren't you gonna say something about the fact that I went through your phone last night? And he didn't even understand what I was saying. I reminded him and he laughed. He genuinely thought I was just watching a movie or show. I sometimes use his phone for that if mine is charging, so he didn't even notice I was snooping.
Speaker 2:At this point I just told him everything how I got paranoid, why I checked, how I was worried something was wrong and he got quiet for a second and then kind of shyly admitted that he thought I was enjoying all the extra sex. So he just kept initiating more. But the real reason, he said he sometimes feels disconnected from me. He's very introverted and doesn't talk to many people and keeps his circle small. Meanwhile, my entire job is social. I work in PR and I spend a lot of time with my coworkers.
Speaker 2:He admitted that sometimes he feels like I have this whole world outside of our relationship and since he's not super talkative, he worries he doesn't always connect with me the way I do with others. Sex for him is one of the most intimate things we share, so in his mind, having more of it made him feel closer to me. I almost cried when he said this because I never thought of it that way. I reassured him that just because I talk to a million people a day doesn't mean I don't prioritize him, and we both agreed to make more of an effort to connect outside of just sex More quality time, deeper conversations, little gestures. I also promised to communicate better if something is overwhelming me, instead of silently suffering and then having a breakdown about it. Basically, I love him so much and that was it.
Speaker 1:He sounds like a good man. I mean, at the end that sounds like a good relationship. That sounds like a good relationship.
Speaker 2:I mean, yes, there was a little, there wasn't.
Speaker 1:There was a hiccup in communication, a hiccup in communication, which, again, is the takeaway for this as well.
Speaker 2:But she finally broke down and communicated with him. Yes, and as soon as, as soon as she brought the problem to him he immediately communicated with her and they solved it.
Speaker 1:This is a good relationship and I hope moving forward, it definitely strengthens their relationship sounds like it already has uh, it's, it's great that they're communicating and it it's great that he got that off his chest and so did she, and this is only going to help them grow. You know relationships, you got to nurture them and it's the only way to. You got to water that plant to make it grow you know, and that's a great way to put it.
Speaker 1:It is you gotta work on each other, but you also have to work on yourself as well, and that's the best advice I can give. Besides, the communication is an introspective, you know. Look at yourself and look at what might be the overall issue. Um, I know that giving relationship advice in general is very hard. You give what you can take and also you only can help people who want to be helped, and those are just from personal experience. But communication is just that's the number one key.
Speaker 2:And like her last statement in there about the well, not the last statement, but when she was talking about her needing to communicate that she was going to start working on communicating better and not silently suffering. That's a big one.
Speaker 1:That's a big one.
Speaker 2:Silently suffering is really easy to do. Even if you prioritize communication, it is easy for something to slip through.
Speaker 2:You're like oh, that's so little, that's nothing, I shouldn't even be concerned about that. But if it keeps niggling you, that's silently suffering and it's going to well, I shouldn't say going to, but it's likely to drive a wedge in the relationship Right? And if you feel guilty about it, an easy thing to say is I know this sounds silly, but it is bothering me. And if you have a good partner and if you don't have a good partner, why are you in the relationship Right?
Speaker 2:Then they will understand and try to help you with it. Yeah, it might not be, something they need to change Exactly? Yeah, but they can still talk to you about it. They can still talk with it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it might not be something they need to change Exactly, yeah, but they can still talk to you about it. They can still talk about it, yeah, and it doesn't hurt at all. Relationships should ultimately be an open forum between you and your partner, and there really shouldn't be much of concern about what you're bringing up, as far as far as how you feel you know. That should be an open thing, and you should openly be able to admit certain issues with your partner in order to move forward, because you can't push a boulder uphill and then your partner is trying to push it downhill.
Speaker 1:You get me Push a boulder uphill and then your partner is trying to push it downhill. You get me, it's a team effort. Both of you guys got to work to push that boulder uphill.
Speaker 2:You can't be working at cross purposes.
Speaker 1:No, you cannot.
Speaker 2:You're a team.
Speaker 1:You need to team up and you need to know where the other person's at.
Speaker 2:And how can you know where the other person's at if you don't have communication? Exactly. So just a real quick cap on that is a number of amusing comments for the update anyway. The first is by J Tenka. Excuse me miss. This is Reddit. We didn't come here for an adult and sensible discussion between two rational people.
Speaker 1:That's the top comment. We came here for the tea, for that drama.
Speaker 2:And there was drama, but at least there was a nice conclusion to it.
Speaker 1:I like that. It was complicated, yet wholesome.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then the second top is conscious underscore koala, underscore 6519. Screw you, you're both beautiful, enjoy each other. And a bunch of emojis after that.
Speaker 1:You deserve each other.
Speaker 2:And then the comment that responded to that is by award07. Hey, now they're screwing each other. Get out of here. Yeah, let them be. And then the last comment I'll say in the same vein is, by good underscore, ad 6336. Finally, two people that actually communicate their feelings and listen.
Speaker 1:That's the ultimate lesson.
Speaker 2:right there, it's a rarity to come across stories that have wholesome endings and I love it most of the time you you know it's.
Speaker 1:You're talking about problems yeah, exactly, and oftentimes the resolutions aren't part of the original story resolutions are far and far between.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but this one was good and I appreciate it and it really drives home the whole just communicate people. Yeah, just communicate If you're in a relationship and you can't trust the person to communicate with them. You need to think about why you're in the relationship with them Talk to your partner. Because they're supposed to be your live-in best friend. Basically, yes, you get to boink occasionally. Or often, sometimes three times a day, evidently.
Speaker 1:That's insane.
Speaker 2:If you have that much time and energy. But they need. They're called your partner for a reason. They're your partner in life, sometimes crime Partner, crime, pic but In life especially, and if you can't trust them to communicate with them, you both need to work on that first.
Speaker 1:That's foundational for everything else, I should say in my opinion and I'll leave it with a lasting word har Harley, life's already complicated our relationships. Don't gotta be man, and I'll leave it at that. I'll leave it at that, and so we'll go ahead and end this episode and, as always, go ahead and like and subscribe on whatever platform you're listening to us. Go ahead and comment as well. We'd greatly appreciate that. And keep those gloves up and send our links to your friends.
Speaker 3:Please, they're not going to do it now. Now they're going to say don't listen to this.
Speaker 1:There's a creeper. Alright bye.
