I was invited to a pancake party.....

What if the best life advice is hidden in plain sight on Reddit—waiting for you to finally believe it? We dive into a lively grab bag of threads and pull out the kind of lessons that stick: why your body will force a break if you won’t, how hydration and mobility are quiet superpowers, and the brutal clarity of trusting patterns over promises. We open up about health, money, compound choices, and the regret math of putting off retirement—then pivot into practical fixes you can start today.

From there, we make habits less heroic and more automatic. Daily walks that don’t require a debate. The craft rule “measure twice, cut once” applied to kitchens, projects, and decisions. And because communities shape our sanity, we wade into HOA horror stories: fines for porch chairs, weaponized “violations,” and side hustles disguised as standards. The antidote isn’t rage; it’s participation—read the covenants, show up, and push back together.

We also celebrate weird, specific resolutions with real payoff: hosting your way to 100 pancakes, gamifying 50 rejections to dull the sting and multiply chances, and rucking Middle-earth miles to anchor a year in story. Then comes the thorny AITA: a panicking front-seat passenger versus a driver’s focus. We unpack safety, empathy, motion sickness, and why communication before the trip matters more than ultimatums at the curb. Finally, a petty revenge tale paints the last scene—literally—when an art-filled home is erased into millennial gray after an unjust eviction.

If you’re into practical wisdom, human messiness, and a few laugh-out-loud detours, you’ll feel right at home. Hit play, then tell us: which piece of advice did you ignore until it bit you back? Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a review to help others find the show.

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:27

Welcome back, dear listeners, to Peak Points. Today we will be having a grab bag from Reddit. Hopefully this will be lots of fun. We've got some juicy ones, some kinda scary ones, depending on your point of view. And uh hopefully some some nice funny ones. What do you think?

SPEAKER_01 0:54

I think they're all scary ones. But maybe I'm just always scared.

SPEAKER_02 0:59

You should probably work on your anxiety levels then. Is that what that is? Probably, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:06

I'm just always scared.

SPEAKER_02 1:07

That's that's typically a product of anxiety.

Ignored Advice That Proved True

SPEAKER_01 1:11

Like I walk around and I'm like scared. Alright, yeah, I think definitely there'll be some really good ones, specifically with our Ask Reddit uh by Witty Monk 7391. What's a piece of advice you ignored once but later realized was a hundred percent correct? Oof.

SPEAKER_02 1:37

There's gonna be some interesting anecdotes here.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

I'll start with one of them. Hindsight is 2020, and sometimes you know you make a mistake, but you can't go back in time unless you're Marty McFly, I guess.

SPEAKER_02 1:49

Pretty much.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

And uh what's your first one that you think uh applies to this?

Rest Before Burnout And Hydration Habits

SPEAKER_02 1:57

So the first one that uh has a little bit of personal pertinence to m to myself from The Secret Winds, I believe. If you don't take a break voluntarily, your body will force you to take one.

SPEAKER_01 2:13

Yeah. Uh your body really does tell you a lot of the time what you need. You just gotta like listen, they say, even though that sounds kind of corny.

SPEAKER_02 2:22

It does sound a little corny and a little wishy-washy or woo-woo for a lot of people. Oh yeah. However, there are certain signs that you should pay attention to, and unfortunately, a lot of people don't. Some people don't simply because they aren't caught they aren't aware of what those signs might be meaning.

SPEAKER_03 2:47

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 2:48

And then there's also other times when things just have to get done. And so you just put your nose to the grindstone and get it done. And unfortunately, sometimes that does result in burnout. And then that serious problem goes into your body will force you to take one where you just are stumbling through life and you're not putting in the effort that's required, honestly.

SPEAKER_01 3:16

And another thing that applies to your body will tell you is not just about like energy level and stuff, also hydration. I know we're talking about this off air. Uh you gotta stay hydrated. Your body will tell you when you need that water. And uh I'll tell you right now, I'm telling you, listener, drink that glass of water. I see you.

SPEAKER_02 3:42

One thing I find myself struggling with in that vein is I'll be like in the middle of a project, and I'm like, I should drink some water, but I need to finish this step first. And then as soon as I finish that step, I'm like, I need to get this done, and I move on to that next step, and then I'm like, oh, I really need some water. I'm and I I sometimes I catch myself saying this out loud just to reinforce the the concept to myself in my you know, cement it in my brain is you need a glass of water now. Yeah. Go get that water.

SPEAKER_01 4:15

Go get that water.

SPEAKER_02 4:16

You need it. It's not really an option. And you say that out loud. Well, I don't do that whole speech, but I'm like sometimes I'll say, damn it, Harley, get that water. Or drink some water or something like that. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 4:28

That's better than I'm gonna do.

SPEAKER_02 4:29

I've literally sometimes scolded myself out loud.

SPEAKER_01 4:32

Sometimes I'm just walking around and I go, Man, I'm thisty.

SPEAKER_02 4:36

That is very on brand for you. I just go, man.

SPEAKER_01 4:40

I'm thysty. And usually that that gets the point across. Yeah. But lately I've been forgetting my freaking water bottle, so and all they have at work are these little tiny cups. Those are so annoying. And then I'm like, what the heck? I'm out here taking shots of water, like the hell?

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Yeah, and you sit then you stand there for five minutes, slowly refill your little cup, shoot it in like half a second, then you slowly fill it, shoot it in half a second. It's like, God dang it.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

And the problem is the water server thing, what is it called? The water jug. Yeah. It pours so fast. Like sometimes it just Oh, yours is fast.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

Sometimes I'll just jump cross are slow at the time.

SPEAKER_01 5:21

Yeah, I I agree. I've I've had I encountered some slow ones, especially when you especially when you have a bottle, a water bottle when you're filling it up. But but this one is just like and just almost because the c I don't know if it's the cu it's fast and the cup is small, but it like overfills right away. Dang it. And I'm like, oh sh oh my god, almost spill.

SPEAKER_02 5:40

Another problem I have with those those water jugs is they're always too cold.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Sometimes, yeah. Sure.

SPEAKER_02 5:54

I don't care for ice water.

SPEAKER_01 5:56

You like it lukewarm?

SPEAKER_02 5:57

Lukewarm is honestly better for your body.

SPEAKER_01 5:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:00

Your body processes the water better at room temperature.

SPEAKER_01 6:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:04

You definitely It's less work on your kidneys and everything.

SPEAKER_01 6:07

I guess especially in the cold. Yeah, especially in the winter in the winter time. I don't know. I don't know Luke, but if he's warm, I'll take it.

SPEAKER_02 6:21

He crawls into a tauntaun, isn't it? Is that what the name of it was? A tauntaun. Oh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 6:26

Was that is that where that reference comes from? Star Wars here. From Luke going into the cutting open oh. That's not the original. I mean he was warm. What a crazy reference.

SPEAKER_02 6:36

I don't know the true original, but I'm pretty certain it was around long before that movie came out.

SPEAKER_01 6:44

And I have a little bit of a deeper piece of advice, and I and I agree with this one. By unusual-alfalpha 835. Trust patterns, not words. Deep.

SPEAKER_02 7:00

Yeah?

SPEAKER_01 7:01

Yeah. If you take the time to think about that one, like damn.

SPEAKER_02 7:04

It can apply to a lot.

SPEAKER_01 7:05

A lot.

SPEAKER_02 7:07

And especially in relationships. There's a lot of instances in relationships where you you get a lot of mouth service about how they're gonna change or fix or whatever. And then it just doesn't happen. Yeah. They just keep doing it.

SPEAKER_01 7:27

It it kind of ties in with that whole thing like trust actions, not words, kind of thing. You could take it in so many so many ways. Um I I like this one. It's a kind of a different spin, I haven't heard. It's by Wendyboat.com. What about the classic? Twice is a coincidence, three times is a conspiracy. I don't know. Is it a conspiracy then? If it's like kind of fact.

SPEAKER_02 7:55

Well I don't know. I mean, for some times it is. And uh conspiracy doesn't necessarily mean like conspiracy theory, which has a negative connotation.

SPEAKER_01 8:09

Sure.

SPEAKER_02 8:10

And that's a whole deep dive in and of itself. Uh it became a negative connotation because of the CIA, actually. But uh to circle back to the original part, a conspiracy can literally be someone conspiring to you know pull one over on you. Right. Or to, you know, get something past you, whatever you want however you want to word it. So conspiracy does legitimately work in that case.

SPEAKER_01 8:41

Uh yeah, exactly. That's what I was thinking, like um conspiracy. I like the way that they added the question mark at the end, conspiracy. Maybe it is.

Health Early, Money Later: Long-Term Thinking

SPEAKER_02 8:53

It couldn't be. So another one from Avatar underscore Leo. Take care of your health early. Everything else gets harder without it.

SPEAKER_01 9:06

Yes, they do say that. A lot of people I've heard say that.

SPEAKER_02 9:10

It's not even up for debate, honestly. I mean, the the amount of aspects to your health that are honestly kind of criminally underrepresented to us as a society as a whole, at least American society, is pretty scary, honestly. Because there's some very basic things for physical health that need to be prioritized, and not just from some rote PE program, you know? There's there's a lot of aspects like going throughout the rest of your life that if you're not keeping up with, you're gonna be struggling a lot as you age. Even just simple things of like getting up off the ground, if you whether that's because you got down on the ground purposely or if you you tripped.

SPEAKER_01 10:12

You ate it.

SPEAKER_02 10:13

And you need to get up. If you don't have the right strength and training to get up, how are you gonna get up?

SPEAKER_00 10:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 10:23

Uh there's There's so many competitions for that. Even if you like don't break something on your fall, as a 70, 80, 90 year old, you still need to get up, you know?

SPEAKER_01 10:35

Yes. Mm-hmm. Uh so many people.

SPEAKER_02 10:38

And then of course there's things like brushing your teeth.

SPEAKER_01 10:40

Yeah, I've seen a lot of those in this, yeah, for sure. A lot of them brush your teeth and go to the dentist dentist. Take care of yourself. I think is the general consensus that I've been getting more so like not just your body, but like your mental health, your physical health, your financial health. You know, think about retirement and stuff like that, even though that's kind of like the boring stuff.

SPEAKER_02 11:03

But it's it's so important because I neglected the retirement thing for far too long. Yeah. I'm 34 now, and I've only had a couple years contributing to my retirement because it's hard. I was working with small-time mom and pop operations that just weren't able to, you know, have those kind of benefit programs. Yeah. And I was skating by too close on my own paychecks and lit and life expense expenses, day-to-day life expenses, that I wasn't contributing outside of, you know, a benefit package. And thankfully I now have a job that does the retirement program, but I'm seriously regretting having like I think it was a eight and a half year stretch without any retirement contributions. Yeah. Looking at the numbers, it's like I'm missing out on a lot of money come retirement.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

And and that's the hard part, and that's the thing that you have to look ahead to. Uh was my main point was you know, just thinking those kind of things is helpful, especially like we're we're not promised tomorrow, we're only in it for today, you know, that kind of thing. I mean, there is that. You have to think about though tomorrow because at the end of the day, uh, like one of my favorite financial podcasterslash uh show host, his name is Caleb. Um and he always says, like, think about retirement so you don't have to work at Walmart when you're 70, 80 years old, and you die on the Walmart floor. Yeah, is the way main thing he says, which is kind of scary to think about, and especially because of how things are going right now, you know, things aren't looking financially good, you know, for a lot of people, and I think that's the plight of a lot of normal people, is that yeah, I have money for my bills, my rent, animals, insurance, so on and so forth. But like you said, putting money into your retirement and stuff like that is really hard to, you know, think about and sometimes even to accomplish.

Building Habits And Beating Decision Fatigue

SPEAKER_02 13:18

And sometimes, uh unfortunately for a lot of people who weren't brought up with a good understanding and being taught a good uh way to look at it when they're young, it's even hard to justify setting aside that little bit of money every month when you're, you know, twenty-two. Because you're like, that is so far away, and a lot of people, a lot of twenty-year-old twenty to twenty-five-year-olds that I've talked to even l jokingly will say, I don't plan on living that long. But next thing they know, I I've I've met older people who who jokingly told me that that was their their uh outlook on life when they were young, but here they are. Early sixties, some of them starting into their seventies, and now they're having to continue working past retirement age because they hadn't set aside that money.

SPEAKER_01 14:21

Very unfortunate. And uh, you know, the the thing is to take that first step. Um a lot like this piece of advice that I appreciated by significant dash brief one fifty-five. Keep on keeping on. And he quotes uh Sun Tzu, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. Yeah. Perseverance is the most difficult trait to develop because it is the foundation for all other aspects of ambition. Wow.

SPEAKER_02 14:58

That is true. Uh in conjunction with that, I want to add another way to look at that that I recently came across that I think would resonate with a lot of different people, is that when you look at that first step and perseverance and keeping keeping on, keeping on, if you truly commit to it, like say you're gonna go for a daily walk, if you don't allow yourself to question if you're gonna go for that daily walk, it honestly takes a burden off of you from having to make a decision. It's just something you're gonna do, it's something your body can expect and reward you for doing.

SPEAKER_01 15:46

Right.

SPEAKER_02 15:48

And it's not like it's gonna hurt you. And so some people I don't usually have this problem, but I I've m I know people who do have this issue where they get decision fatigue, you know, they feel like they're having to decide every single small step of their life. But when you commit to something and you take away that decision making process or the need to make that decision, that can be a that can be a serious relief. And then instead of having to make three decisions of am I gonna go for my walk, when am I gonna go for my walk, how long is my walk gonna be? Now now you don't have to worry about am I taking a walk. It's just when and how long.

SPEAKER_01 16:33

That's a great point. I think uh another thing that adds to this is uh I read recently that the best way to make a habit is like you're saying, like go for that walk, is uh just time it for two weeks because it supposedly it takes two weeks for something to become a regular habit. I've heard twenty-one days. Twenty-one days.

SPEAKER_02 16:57

That's that's the one I've heard most.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

That's a good one. I mean, yeah, maybe mark it on your calendar twenty-one days, and then after twenty-one days, that just becomes your new normal. Mm-hmm. Is what I've what I've heard. I don't know, I haven't really tested that. Maybe Mythbusters tested that they may have.

SPEAKER_02 17:14

I didn't watch too many of those.

SPEAKER_01 17:16

And uh one of my favorite quotes is by Dory from Finding Nemo, just keep swimming.

SPEAKER_02 17:26

Decent life advice. Uh speaking of decent life advice, for Hwarnbat, they put measure twice, cut once.

SPEAKER_03 17:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 17:39

And as someone who was a fabricator for a number of years, yes. Oh my god, yes. Measure thrice if you need to. You know. If you have the smallest bit of uncertainty about that number, measure again. It will save you.

SPEAKER_01 17:57

Another thing that could uh uh apply to many facets of life, not just cutting things. Yeah. You know, measure thrice. Make it nice. As Yoda said. I'm pretty sure.

SPEAKER_02 18:12

It is it can be difficult with some things like baking.

SPEAKER_01 18:16

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 18:16

If you uh if you're specifically counting out cups or teaspoons or whatever.

SPEAKER_03 18:22

Greens.

SPEAKER_02 18:23

Uh that that is one thing. Um if you do have trouble with that, something that can help you is doing the uh weight measurements with a kitchen scale. I can seriously help people.

SPEAKER_01 18:35

Ooh. That's a good idea.

SPEAKER_02 18:38

Because if you're measuring, you know, X number of grams, you can't overmeasure that because it says it on the scale. You're not at 150, you're at 162. So take some out, you know.

HOA Horror Stories And Perverse Incentives

SPEAKER_01 18:56

To continue down our Reddit grab bag episode, uh I have a subreddit f HOA.

SPEAKER_02 19:07

Oh boy, there should be good ones in there.

SPEAKER_01 19:11

And uh these are these can be triggering, I know that for sure. By Salsa Fresca underscore twelve ninety seven. Share here the most outrageous HOA rules you've encountered. A neighboring sub does not allow any kind of furniture displayed on the front of homes. No chairs, no bistro set, no porch swing, because apparently nothing spells dwindling property values like friendly neighbors sitting in the front of their porches greeting passers by. Your turn. What's an outlandish part of C C and Rs that you've seen?

SPEAKER_02 19:51

Oh jeez. Oh man, some of these can be out utterly insane. So the first one that I came across. And really wanted to highlight will be they launched a no dogs in the elevator about two years ago. Not because people had issues with aggressive animals, but apparently too many people weren't cleaning up if their pets couldn't make it out on time and never went back to clean up the piss. I'm physically disabled, live on the fifth floor, and have a legit service animal. And have been here for twelve years. Each infraction was a two hundred dollar fine. I racked up close to forty five thousand dollars in fines until my lawyers' threats became reality in an ADA suit. They still were dumb enough to want to go to court, confident they would triumph because they tried to play the aggressive animal angle. But it's a legit service dog, not an emotional security dog. So you could set off an air horn behind her and she's trained not to react. The court didn't just dismiss it, but ordered them to not just pay my legal fees, but twenty thousand dollars in compensation for the mental and emotional stress that came with that BS. Honestly, that is a really good feel-good one because not a lot of people get one back over on the HOA.

SPEAKER_01 21:20

Oh my word. Uh they had a they had a pretty good outcome in that one. I like that.

SPEAKER_02 21:25

I mean, yes, it was probably a really annoying thing to have to do. Annoying and stressful, but 20 grand in the pocket afterwards would be pretty nice.

SPEAKER_01 21:34

That's a nice little check, and I think I would uh buy a like a golf cart or something and just drive it around. And be like, look what I bought with my new check.

SPEAKER_02 21:43

Well, they seem to live in an apartment situation that might not work so well, but maybe.

SPEAKER_01 21:49

Just ball out. Oh, obviously you gotta move out.

SPEAKER_02 21:52

Heck, use that twenty grand as a down payment on an actual house. That doesn't have an HOA.

SPEAKER_01 21:59

Oh, yeah, try to avoid those HOAs is a good piece of advice. Uh and this one by Finn 235. We had an awful management company a few years back that got kickbacks for violation letters sent out. Like 75 cents cash per violation.

SPEAKER_02 22:20

What?

SPEAKER_01 22:21

They had a car go around literally every week and just pick random stuff for violation letters. Some examples. Leaving garage doors open during the day. The person was literally leaving their house in the picture.

SPEAKER_02 22:44

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 22:45

Sheesh. Garden hoses visible from the street. The person was actively washing their car.

SPEAKER_02 22:58

God, HOAs sometimes suck so bad.

SPEAKER_01 23:01

And poorly kept lawn. The person was mowing their lawn after two solid weeks of rain. We also had them crack down on dirty siding panels. Certainly had nothing to do with the fact that one of our board members had just started a pressure washing company and he gleefully posted on the Facebook page offering group discounts if entire streets would schedule for the same day.

SPEAKER_02 23:27

Wow. Nothing like strong arming your customers slash neighbors.

SPEAKER_01 23:36

The mafia of the HOA.

SPEAKER_00 23:40

I can make this picture go away if uh you know you give me 75 cents.

SPEAKER_02 23:49

More like sign up to pay me 250 bucks to perform the service for you, and then you won't get this uh$200 fine. So, moving on, here by Kyle Y04. No brown slash dead plants. Here's the kicker. It was enforced year-round. I got a violation notice for having a deciduous tree with brown leaves in my front yard in January in the Pacific Northwest.

SPEAKER_01 24:24

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 24:27

Yeah, I'm sorry, but you're not gonna get up on a ladder and pluck all the leaves out of the tree if the if the wind hasn't blown them down yet, that's just the way life's gonna be, you know. It's nature.

Overreach, Power Trips, And Community Pushback

SPEAKER_01 24:45

Yeah, that's horrible. Uh I I really think that that's kind of the most unfortunate part of living in an HOA. Uh the sentiment I'm getting by a lot of these comments is like like, damn, dude, like we bought this place and for you to tell us what to do with our place, in or around our place. And I I know that people are frustrated.

SPEAKER_02 25:09

I mean, the original intent of an HOA is reasonable. You you don't want trashy neighbors rr not only just for the the eyes sore, but also so that way your investment on the house you bought isn't just a complete waste of time because the person a door or two down the road decided that they wanted their previously nice house to turn into a junkyard, like literally a junkyard with twelve cars and parts, pieces, and trash everywhere. Right. I understand not wanting to live next to that.

SPEAKER_01 25:46

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 25:47

It's when they're perverted outside of that and people get power hungry and money hungry that it becomes these nightmares.

SPEAKER_01 25:56

Um and then I uh this is uh outside of the the post, but I saw a video because I was watching like HOA ones like that too for some reason. Random.

SPEAKER_00 26:05

Maybe Maybe the phone's listening. Maybe.

SPEAKER_01 26:08

Oh my god. My what is it what was it? The whole my FBI agent? Oh, the whole my FBI agent? Yeah, maybe. Uh I saw a video of a I don't know if it was uh this lady who came up to this ring doorbell, rang the doorbell, and the person was like, Hello, and she was like, Oh yeah, I'm your HOA, whatever this and that. And she was like, You are getting way too many packages delivered to your house. There's like multiple packages at your door, and this and that, and this and that, and uh we're gonna find you if you don't stop getting stuff delivered to your house like this. Dude, imagine and I I even think the person was like, What the hell are you talking about? Like like it's just Amazon deliveries, what what is your problem? Imagine having that to contend with, bro.

SPEAKER_02 27:03

That that kind of stuff just gets under your skin. Oh man, that's awful.

SPEAKER_01 27:10

And uh I have a quick one by Riley Masters. This rule only lasted like six months, twenty-something years ago, but there was a time in the neighborhood that I was living in the HOA banned children from gathering in groups of four or more.

SPEAKER_03 27:27

What?

SPEAKER_01 27:29

Unless at one designated park areas with a party permit.

SPEAKER_02 27:38

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 27:39

Didn't matter it was four friends taking a bike ride or five siblings laying about the grass in the front. Instant fine. My friend's mom ended up fine when I walked past her house with my dog. She was outside with her three kids and I waved.

SPEAKER_02 27:57

Wow, holy and here's the kicker.

SPEAKER_01 28:02

Apparently it was to prevent gang violence in an upper white middle class area where at the time the worst thing that happened was a Super Bowl fight over in like five minutes. Wow. But the parents finally had a cow and it blew up. The rule got easily removed because only like two people in the HOA board actually showed up to the hastily announced meeting. The rest were retirees who lived up north in warmer months called snowbirds. We got some snowbirds out here in Colorado. Yeah, yeah, we do. Uh we kids were still discouraged from grouping up outside those particular homes owned by the said snowbirds, but nothing else ever came from it.

SPEAKER_02 28:50

Well, I I'm glad it uh had a decent ending in the end. That didn't have to go to court.

SPEAKER_01 28:58

That's sad. I mean that's really sad. And uh the fact that like somebody who's not there, you know, as the homeowner, as in that presence, snowbirds as they called it, do are are they really the ones that should be in charge of that HOA? Isn't that kind of crazy? They're just getting these people to, like you said, strong armed people, yeah giving fines and stuff. That's very unfortunate. Um I've heard some horror stories about what HOA is willing to find people for. Yeah. But but this is this is really sad. Uh maybe even diabolical. You like that word, huh?

Specific Resolutions: Pancakes, Rejection, And Rucking

SPEAKER_02 29:37

Diabolical. And speaking of diabolical, some people have diabolical goals for their improvement in the upcoming new year. And given that this is a new year for us, I think this is a reasonable thing to have in our uh Reddit grab bag. This is from self-improvement by Hexotherm. Really specific New Year's resolutions question mark and as their own personal anecdote to start it off with, it says, I'd love to hear some specific, maybe small, New Year's resolutions that you're doing or that you've heard others are doing. No shade, and best of luck to those with huge and broad goals. But for instance, in twenty twenty five, my resolution was to make one hundred pancakes. And it was really useful and successful. I ended up hosting a few pancake brunches for my friends to make the goal, which was lovely. Could you share your little goals to inspire me for 2026?

SPEAKER_01 30:49

That's a good one. Make a hundred pancakes.

SPEAKER_02 30:53

It honestly is, because if you're going to avoid eating a ridiculous number of pancakes, which I mean over a year, one hundred isn't that big of a deal. But, you know, if you realize you need to make fifty more pancakes and it's already September, maybe you do want to host a brunch and get through some of those pancake party. But having a pancake party, I wouldn't turn down being invited to a pancake party. I mean, not many people I know would.

SPEAKER_01 31:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:23

And you usually have a real you can really have a good time with something like that.

SPEAKER_01 31:27

I don't know. I don't know how I bot how I feel about going to a pancake party and thinking like I hope they mean actual pancakes and this, not just some freaky term. Like pancake party? You want to come to my pancake party?

SPEAKER_02 31:45

I mean, I think you could probably clarify just to be sure when you're ready to get the initial invite.

SPEAKER_01 31:52

What if I told you like this with this face? You want to come to my pancake party?

SPEAKER_02 31:58

Probably would be a little put off from that.

SPEAKER_01 32:02

I mean the listeners can't see it, but I can hit you with one of these.

SPEAKER_02 32:06

Oh God.

SPEAKER_01 32:08

Sounds like a sticky situation. Well, yeah, because there's syrup for you need syrup for a pancake party.

SPEAKER_02 32:16

Yes, that's the only source of stickiness, I swear.

SPEAKER_01 32:20

The one guy at the pancake party who only likes waffles. Um So I know there's like 106 pancakes here, but I was wondering if you can make a waffle for me.

SPEAKER_02 32:32

Oh god, there's always somebody who wants to make have an exception made for them.

SPEAKER_01 32:36

Oh my god. Speaking of exceptions, this is this is way beyond the point. Was uh uh I'm wa I'm watching this really drama show. Don't ask me why. Uh I'm just watching it, you know, to because I'm chilled like that, you know. Oh yeah. Uh it's about people living on a boat. Okay. And uh and basically they're working on a super yacht and stuff like this.

SPEAKER_02 32:58

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 32:59

And they get chefs all the time. It's like in works and seasons, you know, like that. It's also every not always the same chef. Right. There was a guest uh that specifically told the chef before the day even got started. I really like pancakes. Like I really like pancakes. Like I could have pancakes for dinner.

SPEAKER_02 33:20

Mm-hmm. Winky Winky.

SPEAKER_01 33:21

I could have pancakes for dinner. I love pancakes. So I'm on maybe just a big thing of pancakes. And I like my pancakes soft with crispy edges. Crispy edge pancakes.

SPEAKER_02 33:34

I mean, to be fair, that's thick. Pretty average for a desire of a pancake, but okay.

SPEAKER_01 33:39

Thick pancakes. Okay. Made it a point to be specific about the thick pancakes. Yeah. Later in that night, the chef was like, Alright, well I'm about to make him some pancakes. Mm-hmm. Dude, he made creps. The thinnest Oh god The thinnest, like non-crispy crepes I've ever seen. He's gonna love these pancakes, the guy said. And I don't know. I I don't know where the guy was from. The chef was like from Europe, I think. Okay. So I don't know if if the pancakes are different in Europe or I don't are creps pancakes to people in I know.

SPEAKER_02 34:16

I don't know. They are a distinct thing. I mean they're from originally from France, I believe.

SPEAKER_01 34:26

And then just to finish the story, the guy's like, These are not pancakes. Like, these are creps. I want pancakes, I don't want creps. This is nothing like I said thick. And the chef's like, oh, he never said that he wants thick pancakes. He says he like he likes thin, thin creppy pancakes or something like that. He's like, Alright, but I'll make him something else. He may ended up making them tiny creps. And they bring it up to the to the guest, and the guest is like, I'm not eating.

SPEAKER_02 34:59

What the F is this?

SPEAKER_01 35:01

So what I think if I recall, one more try at the pancakes, this time for breakfast.

SPEAKER_02 35:05

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 35:07

Makes pretty alright looking pancakes, right? Okay. But they looked a little bit more pancakey this time. Still not pancakes. Right. That we all know and love too.

SPEAKER_02 35:17

Uh-huh. Not in America anyway.

SPEAKER_01 35:19

The guy's excited, takes a bite raw in the middle.

SPEAKER_02 35:22

Oh my god. One star review. Yeah. One star review. And that's only because he can't go lower.

SPEAKER_01 35:33

And oh my god, what a tangent to go on about pancakes. Uh I'll let you guys find that on your own. I will not say what the show is. Uh just find it on your own. Uh I like this this new year, new meagle by hot underscore revenue 6502.

SPEAKER_02 35:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:54

I want to get rejected fifty times to get over my fear of rejection.

AITA: Driving Anxiety, Safety, And Communication

SPEAKER_02 36:00

Ugh. That one would be useful for a lot of people. Fear of rejection has held a lot of people back from a lot of really great things. Be it a new job, be it, you know, just random opportunities to experience things. Like, I know of one guy who just decided that, you know what, I'm I'm just gonna basically YOLO it, if you will. And just went up to some firefighters and asked, hey, can I get a tour of the firehouse and sit in the fire truck and get my picture taken? This was like a a 40-some year old and he fur he he was near paralyzed, but he decided to just go for it and he got it. Like they were totally happy to do that for him. I mean realistically, I that aren't usually, you know, provided that it's done nicely, a lot of people are perfectly happy to talk to you and include you in whatever it is they're doing, especially a f like a situation like firefighters, because it's nice to have that recognition from someone and to have real interest in something that you're doing.

SPEAKER_01 37:17

Yeah. And it's all because they took a chance, right? Yeah. Which is a lot of the sentiment of this comment by awareness aware 4392. That's actually genius. Turning rejection into a game with a scoreboard takes the sting out of it. It does. Plus, you'll probably accidentally succeed at some stuff along the way. A lot of stuff. Which is like a bonus.

SPEAKER_02 37:39

Surprising amount of things you will succeed.

SPEAKER_01 37:41

And like you were saying about someone that you know, someone I know was on a a ship a long time ago. I don't know what kind of ship, small, big, medium, I don't know. But point is they talk to the captain and they asked, like, can I drive the boat for a little bit? Mm-hmm. The captain said, Yeah. I'll actually show you how to drive the boat. And they were I'm in open waters, I'm hoping. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 38:00

Oh, I would assume so. And that I'm sure was a lifetime memory that they're gonna hang on to and cherish for forever.

SPEAKER_01 38:07

Yeah. And I'm hoping that I'm gonna take that with me and like uh because I I don't fear many things, even though I said in the beginning I'm always scared.

SPEAKER_03 38:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:18

I don't fear rejection. Well it's not one thing I'm afraid of.

SPEAKER_02 38:21

Some in in in this kind of context though, it can help to push you outside of your comfort zone, yes. And to push you to imagine things that you wouldn't normally do. Because if it's within your normal sphere of experience, your your fear of rejection is almost nil, especially if you're naturally not socially anxious or what have you.

SPEAKER_01 38:43

Yeah, especially your chill.

SPEAKER_02 38:46

And so if you're looking for those fifty rejections, you're gonna be like, Well, I know I can get away with this here. So what can I maybe not get away with where I'm not used to being? Yeah. And you'll start looking for those experiences, and then you'll find out that, oh wow, maybe I can get away with a lot more than I think I can.

SPEAKER_01 39:06

Yes, this is motivating me to on my next flight ask the captain to fly the plane.

SPEAKER_02 39:13

I mean I'm just gonna get in there. You're you're more likely to get that rejection.

SPEAKER_01 39:16

I'll just toss the stewardess or the s the steward, just toss them to the side and open the cockpit. And then I'm gonna go up to them and I'm gonna say, and I'm gonna whisper in their ear, let me fly the plane.

SPEAKER_02 39:30

I don't think that will go well, sir. Maybe maybe you just try to avoid ill illegal things.

SPEAKER_01 39:36

Uh that's illegal?

SPEAKER_02 39:37

If if you're gonna get don't don't get in trouble with the law with with these rejections.

SPEAKER_01 39:42

Oh. Hmm. I don't know, this is still pretty I'm pretty inspired, man.

SPEAKER_02 39:50

Okay, let's let's let's find some new inspiration in this vein. Thank you. By signal underscore fan six one four three. First, create a business and And know that you're going to fail multiple times. Two, ask people deep questions to get to know them better. Three, become a nicer person and be more forgiving. These are some just off the top of my head.

SPEAKER_01 40:14

Those are good ones. Those are productive ones.

SPEAKER_02 40:18

Honestly, I I kind of want to quibble a little bit with the wording of the first one. Create a business and know that you're going to fail multiple times. Yes, there are many aspects of creating a business where you are likely to fail. But I don't the way this is put, it feels to me that you should be like specifically courting the failure. And I could just be reading it, uh misreading it. Their intention may be different. It's just for me, it feels like start the business in order to get some failures.

SPEAKER_01 41:02

Yeah, I I agree I agree with that point for sure.

SPEAKER_02 41:05

But on the flip side, yes, it is good to go into it with clear eyes and be aware that there are many things about op opening and maintaining a business that are very complicated and you're likely to get things wrong on the way.

SPEAKER_01 41:21

Yeah. Like the people on Bar Rescue, they're like, I'm gonna start a business, and they make it sound so easy, and then they're like I'm 300,000 in debt. Yeah. And their whole life is uh topsy turvy. And uh I have a simple one, one that I think applies to a lot of people these days. Maybe it'll help you, listener, is by aggravating underscore tie underscore 3217, no ordering from Uber Eats or DoorDash. Wow, the big thing for a lot of people.

SPEAKER_02 41:52

A lot of people are addicted to that. I don't get it myself.

SPEAKER_01 41:57

The convenience.

SPEAKER_02 41:57

I've I've never done it.

SPEAKER_01 41:59

No. Uh I used to do it back when I lived in in LA.

SPEAKER_02 42:02

I guess in a bigger city might have a lot more options for one, but also just be more than norm.

SPEAKER_01 42:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 42:13

Uh the only time I've gotten DoorDash is by accident, and that's because I ordered pizza, and I guess they no longer have delivery drivers and s at some pizza places. Oh. And they subcontract to DoorDash. Like you literally order it through the pizza app, and then you get you start getting text messages saying your DoorDash driver will be arriving at X next time, or will we let you know when they've picked up your order, or something like that. And you were like, Yes. And I was like, the f I didn't I didn't order DoorDash, I didn't sign up for DoorDash. What what is this? At first I thought it was a scam. I was like, what what's going on? I've I've never had a pizza place not have a delivery driver before and then do that. And then I had to look it up and I ended up calling. The pizza place is like, what's going on here? And then you had to explain it to me. I felt like a boomer. Yeah. I'm not gonna lie.

SPEAKER_01 43:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 43:19

Yeah. It was just outside of my realm of experience. Yes. Living in a small town.

SPEAKER_01 43:25

Yeah. Money raids and whatever the f the song says. Anyway. And I'm just a city boy. I used to order DoorDash all the time. I mean, uh, not all the time. It was convenient for some stuff for sure, but I could get why some people can get addicted, like, you know what? I'm in the mood for some Chinese food. Yeah. Beepy beep, couple buttons on the phone, pre-pay or Apple Pay so easy. And then it gets to your house in 20 minutes.

SPEAKER_02 43:58

Yeah. Now I get that. In some ways, again, in a big city type situation where Options. And there's there's a lot more public transport and all that, and there's a lot less impetus for you to own your own vehicle, where something like that might genuinely be a reasonable option rather than getting a taxi or Uber or what have you and going and getting yourself, where it would probably end up being more expensive versus a DoorDash. I don't know. I'm just speculating. Again, small town boy here.

SPEAKER_01 44:39

Just like the song.

SPEAKER_02 44:40

Yeah. And one last one in the self-improvement that I my the nerdy side of myself enjoys. Oh okay. And this is from Black Balasong 42. I love to ruck, and that's to hike, effectively, with a weighted pack. And this year I am starting the journey from the Shire to Mordor from the Lord of the Rings. Basically, all of Frodo's walk, and for 2026, I plan to at least reach Rivendale, which is approximately 300 miles. So three hundred miles with a 40-pound pack. That honestly is pretty daunting at first.

SPEAKER_00 45:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 45:27

But that's a really cool goal. That is a cool goal. I mean it's super nerdy. Metaphorical. But also it's really cool.

SPEAKER_01 45:34

His metaphorical walk through uh Mordor and stuff like that. That's that's pretty interesting. I hope he brings that elfish bread.

SPEAKER_02 45:42

Lambas?

SPEAKER_01 45:45

That'd be pretty fire, I'm not gonna lie. Yeah. Mm-hmm. And it and you you don't you don't get hungry afterwards and that?

Petty Revenge: Erasing The Art House

SPEAKER_02 45:51

I like how they're they're uh putting it in perspective and not not being too ridiculous with it. Right. They're saying they just want to reach Rivendale from which is like the halfway point. I I'm well maybe not exactly half, but three hundred miles from the Shire to Rivendale, that's I didn't realize it would be that that long of a distance. I thought it was a lot closer than that.

SPEAKER_01 46:17

I'll just pull up the the the tower of the white wizard, Saruman, and pull up and be like, I know your Count Dooku from Star Wars. You can't lie to me.

SPEAKER_02 46:28

Don't mix the franchises.

SPEAKER_01 46:30

Can't can't lie to me. Even his one, he was like a little curved at the end. His staff was a little curved at the end. Oh god. You know. Nothing wrong with a little curve at the end of your staff.

SPEAKER_02 46:44

No. Don't don't go there.

SPEAKER_01 46:48

And uh speaking of not going there, but I'ma go there. Uh continuing on our grab bag. Yes. I have an am I the asshole.

SPEAKER_02 46:59

Oh I can get juicy.

SPEAKER_01 47:01

And this is by Sirius Dash Function 177. Am I the asshole for making my wife ride in the back seat because she couldn't stop distracting me. And this one has a verdict.

SPEAKER_02 47:16

Oh gosh, that man, there is so much context here. I hope we get some.

SPEAKER_01 47:23

This happened over the holidays, and my wife is still upset with me over it. Our family went to visit my in-laws for New Year's. It's about a three to four hour drive. Mostly highway, but it takes us through two metro areas with pretty significant traffic.

SPEAKER_02 47:42

Understandable.

SPEAKER_01 47:43

My wife, thirty-seven female, gets nervous about driving in traffic, so I always drive when we visit her family.

SPEAKER_02 47:51

Again, reasonable.

SPEAKER_01 47:52

She also tends to get car sick on longer drives and needs to sit in the front seat to help ease it.

SPEAKER_02 47:58

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 48:01

She has tried taking drumamine in the past, but she has an allergic reaction to it, so she doesn't take it anymore. I I love my wife with all my heart, but she is not good sitting shotgun. She makes huge reactions to any change in traffic, grabbing the handle, putting her hand on the dash, gasping, telling me to watch out, etc. It's not like I'm an aggressive or risky driver. I've never even gotten a speeding ticket or been in an accident. But if there's a car a half a mile away ahead of us that puts on their brakes, she freaks out and acts like we're about to die.

SPEAKER_02 48:48

Oh my god. I have dealt with people like this.

Takeaways And Listener Callouts

SPEAKER_01 48:51

It's incredibly distracting. I've talked to her multiple times about her reactions actually make it more difficult for me to concentrate on the driving. Yeah. But she says she can't control herself because she's nervous in traffic. On the way to her family's place, she sat up front with me and traffic was pretty bad. Lots of slowdowns due to weather conditions and in general just kind of slow going. But I've been driving in cold weather my whole life and know how to control my speed. I give lots of extra space to any surrounding cars. I understand that you can't control anyone else on the road, but and that accidents happen, but I do everything in my control to keep my car and the people inside safe. The entire drive my wife was on edge making all the reactions I mentioned. It's very distracting to have someone next to you doing that sort of thing while driving. Yes. I mentioned this to my wife numerous times on the drive. She always deflected the blame for the way I was driving. When we were getting ready to head home, I told my wife she needs to sit in the back, and our 14-year-old son will sit in the front with me. I told her it's either that or she drives us home. She got upset with me and started giving excuses about her car sickness. I told her to take some NyQuil or something to help her sleep, but she refused and told me I'm being a jerk. I told her she can drive then, and she refused that too. Eventually she reluctantly reluctantly got into the back seat with our eleven year old daughter. The ride home was much easier traffic wise. And my wife sat pretty much silent in the backseat the entire time, pouting. When we got home, she told me that she still felt ill the entire drive, but didn't say anything because she didn't want to make it a big deal out of anything. She told me I humiliated her by making her sit in the back and that I should be more considerate of her feelings.

SPEAKER_02 51:14

Yeah. Yeah, that is an awful situation to be in. Where because when you have someone doing that in your passenger seat, it's not only distracting, but it's stressful. And if it's already a stressful situation being in traffic, you know, especially if you're not used to it. That is not okay, honestly. It's not okay behavior. And I un my wife as an anecdote, my my wife gets driving anxiety, especially in high volume traffic situations. And I mean it's understandable. Not everyone is used to that. Not everyone is frankly cut out to handle fast-paced environments like that, you know? And I have had to work with her on those kinds of reactions because they weren't quite that extreme, thank God. But yeah, it it's way more stressful to have someone panicking and flipping out and gasping and saying watch out and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 52:36

And yeah, that really, you know, proves the point that a lot of people are different. I have two comments, uh, two different sides of the spectrum, but similar consensus. You need to point out to your wife that she's actually putting everyone in the car in danger when she sits in the front seat because she can't control her reactions in traffic. You need to point out that the safety of your family is more important than her feelings. Your family is safer when she is sitting in the back. I am saying this to someone who has exactly the same problem that your wife has when there is traffic. It literally terrifies me if I am the passenger. I either have to be the one driving the car or I have to be sitting in the back seat with my nose in a book or using my phone to surf the net and distract myself. And uh this this is another from someone who I guess experiences the same thing. This I have been the passenger in several accidents in my life, yea, getting driven around by a parent on heavy medication who should have heeded the do not operate heavy machinery rule. And honestly, it has given me several nervous responses anytime I am the passenger for others. Trying to stomp on an invisible brake, panic grabbing the safety handle over the door, giving panic orders when they are unneeded, etc. My wife is extremely patient with me about it, but I also work hard to control those outbursts. It was hard at first, hella hard, sometimes it still is. One thing I have learned to focus on when I am high anxiety is breathing and relaxing each of my muscles. Force my eyes closed, focus on the radio or conversation. I basically try to meditate, laughing my ass off. Yeah. Point is you should never out your anxiety on the driver. That will only make their driving worse. Shocker.

SPEAKER_02 54:40

Right? Now to clarify my point earlier, or my stance, if you will, I do not have any ill will to people who have you know anxiety driving, passenger otherwise. I understand it. However, your anxiety is your anxiety. Do not project that onto others. Project uh that only will make the situation worse. There's no situation that is made better by increasing and spreading anxiety to everyone in the near vicinity.

SPEAKER_01 55:23

Yeah. And especially when it's like something dangerous like driving, which is at the end of the day, a very dangerous thing that we do all the time. And uh, of course, you know, that's something that can cause anxiety. I mean, just look at how people who are on flights they get anxiety too. Yeah. And that's scary too. You know, and they say what you're more likely to get in a car accident than in a plane crash. Yeah. They always say that. And so I totally get it. I totally get the anxiety part, but I I definitely think that I don't know about meditating, but definitely thinking to yourself, like, is this helpful in this scenario? Is this helpful for me? Is this helpful for the driver? And is this a hindrance to safety?

SPEAKER_02 56:05

Yes, you you do have to have a broader outlook on the whole situation. And I think it could have had there could have been more better conversation between the wife and husband, and having waiting for it to be a this or that conversation right before you leave is not the best time. I understand it in that situation where you tried it on the way out, right? And you're at your in-laws, so you don't really have a lot of time to discuss it. And then you're you need to be on the road on the way back by a certain time, so you don't have time to sit and discuss something for an hour or whatever. And also there is the unfortunate added effect of her being motion sickness in the backseat versus the front seat, which I've known people who are that way.

SPEAKER_01 57:05

Yeah, me too.

SPEAKER_02 57:06

And and that's a thing, it does exist. And the allergy to drumamine, that's that's another issue, unfortunately.

SPEAKER_03 57:14

Right.

SPEAKER_02 57:16

But it just it should for the wife, it should reinforce the fact that she needs to control herself. If you can't control yourself in a situation, that's on you. That's not on anyone else to have to deal with, or it shouldn't be. You shouldn't force other people to deal with your failings. Yes, they're your partner in this situation, your husband, but that doesn't mean that they should have to deal with the full brunt of your unbridled anxiety where you aren't even trying to make it better. And this is a long-running issue. Again, this should have been discussed prior to this because as the husband had mentioned in this post, this is on the way out, there was not the first time that she's had these reactions to the drives. Yes. This should have been a discussion, as we've discussed on many on several previous podcasts that we've posted, that communication, communication, communication.

SPEAKER_01 58:30

Yes, sir. Put that on a t-shirt, sir.

SPEAKER_02 58:33

So the way it was handled was a bit of an asshole move. The communication should have been happening well before this trip. And if you were too scared to have the communication before this trip, you should have at least planned out how to handle having to have her in the back seat.

SPEAKER_01 58:58

Sure. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 58:59

Because that that was going to be a situation that was gonna have to happen sooner or later. If you already knew that it was too much for you to handle for four hours, three to four hours, then you need to start considering that's on you to start considering how you're gonna handle a situation like that. Especially if you're not going to have the balls to communicate with the person, your partner, especially in the situation your partner. You shouldn't wait until it's too late to have a full discussion to push your foot down.

SPEAKER_01 59:40

And uh I definitely Especially in front of your kids. I definitely agree with that point too. It does appear like they've had some sort of discussions. Uh I'm not sure what to what point or to what end. Uh so verdict for you is a whole.

SPEAKER_02 59:53

Not fully. Not fully. Like half. I'm saying everyone. In this case, I think the terminology would be everyone's. The asshole.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:00

Everyone's the asshole.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:02

Because there's different parts where each of them is being the asshole.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:05

Sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:06

Yes, she might not she might refuse to take responsibility, but that does not remove the onus of the husband to work on resolving or having a plan in pay in place to deal with the issue. And this may have been his plan, but I still think it could have been handled better.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:28

Um I agree with that to a point. I'm also with the kind of verdict that is like some people are more assholes than others.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:37

She's the bigger asshole in this, in my opinion. I'm not, don't get me wrong. Right. But I think he had his asshole in this.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:45

And before we move on, a verdict for the people, not the a-hole. It's an understandable verdict. Understandable verdict.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:55

Alright. To wrap up our Reddit grab bag episode, today I'm going to pull from the subreddit Petty Revenge. This post is by ZZ Top.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:10

I could have guessed that.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:12

Oh no, sorry, I I misread that. By ZZZ-Top.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:18

No! Not to change the letter for copyright infringement. You animal.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:23

Alright. Neighbor who's very artistic by nature getting a sudden eviction because the landlord's daughter wants the house with the art inside. Mmm. What art? Question mark. There was a house in our area that was known for having really cool murals inside done by the previous tenant. Outside was pretty tame. She has a pre-built facade to make the house look like a cottage. Inside all hand done murals of Disney movies and fairy tales. The lady was an art teacher when she was younger, and later she started one of those paint with wine type businesses, which she did well before fully retiring. Before just doing paint commissions and furniture decorating. She's always been nice to everyone, even when I've been an ass to her, when she complained about the truck being loud or speeding. We worked that out and have been friends since. She had an agreement with the original landlord about the art. Since it wasn't outside, it wasn't going to be a problem. She's been living in that house since the mid eighties, with promises of getting the house in time. Unfortunately, he passed away before anything was signed and legitimized, and his kids took over. One of the sons visited the house to inspect it with his daughter, and apparently they fell in love and wanted the art house for his daughter. My neighbor didn't have a lease which made the fight harder, and they used the art on the walls as an excuse to kick her out. That is shady. Wow. Sorry, had to kick had to put that in.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:05

Oh unfortunate.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:06

She was devastated, but she was able to buy a property that fits her needs at the last minute in another state that had a full art studio area in the first floor. Yes. She originally wanted to leave the house as is, without the cottage looking front. But my friend offered to restore the house to Rebecca standards for free since he needed to figure out how to use powered paint sprayers. He also had a friend that did landscaping to help her with the front of the house. She agreed, and we moved all of her furniture out to storage units, and my friend let her stay in his guest house free of charge if she did a mural on his living room wall. She had the house cleaned out in a week. On the second week, they buffed all of the walls with sanders. All the murals from the front to the back were gone. It just looked like blotches of colours. My friend, being the ever diligent painter, that he masked everything that wasn't painted and sprayed Kill's primer everywhere with his new toy sprayer. This thing was pretty badass. You can spray a whole wall in four passes. After the paint dried, he used his Rebecca collection of colours to essentially kill the character of the house. Rebecca condition is what we call flipper houses. It's always the same colors, white with greys all over the house, and the shitty dark toned Purgo flooring. That modern look. Yeah. Millennial gray everywhere. Millennial grey. The floors were tiles, so he left it alone, but the walls were white semi gloss. The wood paneling walls, trim, switch covers, outlet covers, counters, and cabinets were sprayed in the most depressing shade of grey. The house looked dead inside when I went in to check it out. It was weird not seeing all the murals. The front of the house was the last project she agreed to give his landscaping friend the bushes in exchange for the labor of removing the cottage facade without breaking it. The landscaper basically ripped everything out and just dumped gravel and sand with a boulder for decoration. This weekend I went to fix some problems at an old neighbor's house and noticed the house was still empty, and asked the neighbor if they had noticed anyone move in. He said earlier in the week there was some U-Halls there, but none of them were unloaded, and that was the last time they remember seeing anyone there. Bet that daughter was in for a surprise when she saw the house get turned into a basic hellhole.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:38

Damn, took out all the character of the home.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:42

That is some major petty reven that's not even petty at that point. There was some major work that went into that. But that's some serious revenge. I mean, I understand from a uh inheritor standpoint, not knowing or perhaps not even caring about a previous supposed verbal agreement. But to kick them out specifically for the work they had done on the property, and then to try and claim that work on the property that you wanted was the reason they were kicking you out, that is some grade A asshole behavior.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:27

Yes. Verdict for the people, asshole.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:30

Yeah, this wasn't an am I the asshole. The person doing it would be not the asshole, and the landlord would be the asshole for sure.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:38

That is a crazy scenario. Makes me want to put my gloves up, man, and uh put the brakes on beat the brakes on somebody. But obviously, you can't do that. Major takeaway, folks, don't be the asshole. Be nice, be friendly. And uh be nice and be friendly and leave a comment, like. Uh, we sincerely appreciate that. And share us around if you if you like it. We we sincerely, sincerely appreciate all of that.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:08

We do. And we do enjoy being able to read the comments, so feel free to drop some.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:16

Catch you on the next one.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:18

Catch you on the next one.